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Feb 19

February 19, 2020 – JOLT – You can’t fly if you don’t crack the hangar

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. – Arthur Ashe

For the perfectionists among us…

it can be grueling to move something out of our private skunk works of development onto the tarmac to see if it will fly.

There’s a lot to be said about attempting to do things “right.”

There’s also a lot to be said against it.

Most well-meaning attempts to get it looking good and working perfectly result in delays that could have been cut in half or more if we were simply willing to let our ego sit out for a period.

Sure, if you’re a supposed “expert” and have a thousand of the same things out there like the one you’re about to introduce, maybe you have a reputation to watch.

For most of us, however, we have a long way to go before any substantial tarnishing of our image will result in more than a blip.

However, to at least get to an image, if you want one, you have to play.

The PlayGame™ Method of achieving goals allows players to experiment with a sense of freedom…because anything worth achieving is worth building a game around.

Remember when you were a kid in the mud? You didn’t worry about the mud. You just wanted to play.

You can argue with me that your reputation or image or income may drastically suffer if you took on a similar mindset today…but I’ll challenge you.

What ISN’T moving forward because you’re unwilling to play dirty? And, if that eventually flew, how would that look for your reputation, image or income?

It can’t fly if you don’t bring it out onto the tarmac…and start your own Kitty Hawk.

Just for today, how can you playfully open the door to the hangar of your own private plans to at least begin to at least get rolling, running, or flying?

Play.
See what you learned from playing.
Repeat.

Would you like to explore how your own ideas could take flight with a lot more play? Schedule a session here. Just for today, try a more playful approach, and see what happens.

Got cracks in the hangar?

“You don’t have to be great to start. But you have to start to be great.” – Zig Ziglar

Feb 05

February 5, 2020 – JOLT – Play gaming, just for today

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Just for today, I will let go of anger. Just for today, I will let go of worry. Today, I will count my many blessings. Today, I will do my work honestly. Today, I will be kind to every living creature.” – Mikao Usui

The tough thing we don’t think about…

is that we don’t know when and where our game is complete. Not to get dour, but quite the opposite.

In just hearing from a friend that he and his girlfriend were slammed by a hit-and-run driver on a busy LA freeway, and went into a spin out, I was awakened again to the fact that today is golden… regardless of the challenges, hurdles or leaps involved in the games we’re facing.

Heck, are those challenges real, and boy, oh boy, are those hurdles tall and leaps long. And how great is it that we get to have them!

What we don’t often consider — in the midst of our growth curves — is, as Carly Simon reminds us, that these are the good old days.

These are the good old days… just for today.

Enjoy!

Like some support in relishing your challenges, hurdles and leaps? For help enjoying your career or business stretches, schedule a session here. Just for today, have an expert by your side.

Got today just for today?

“Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out. I will do at least two things I don’t want to do.” – William James

Jan 29

January 29, 2020 – JOLT – Is it how you play the downside that sustains your upside?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Fall seven times, stand up eight. – Japanese Proverb

In a couple more days…

many folks won’t be referencing their New Years resolutions or how this year will be different…because the towel has already been thrown in.

None of us want to be reminded of our seeming inadequacies or failures, so we’ll just change the subject or find a way to laugh it off.

But, what if actually failing — time after time after time after time — is actually your only access to the changes you want?

So, maybe developing a new relationship with crawling back up is where to develop our skills this year, vs trying so hard to not trip or teeter to avoid falling down.

What if it’s the number of times you get up — and the cultivated grace, finesse and confidence with which you do so — that will be the barometer of your growth in 2020?

See you on the downside!

Need some support in standing up powerfully? For an erector-set viewpoint of your career or business goals, schedule a session here. You’ll move forward faster with a demolition and rebuild expert at your side.

Got skilled downsiding?

“What defines us is how well we rise after falling.” – Lionel, Maid in Manhattan

Jan 22

January 22, 2020 – JOLT – Check your bottle at the door?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“New weapons require new tactics. Never put old wine into new bottles.” – Heinz Guderian

For another few weeks, probably,

we will all continue to hear references to starting the New Year in a new way.

I’ll likely wind down my own references to it soon, and then, as mentioned in a JOLT two weeks ago, we’re back to the fact that we’re ALWAYS in the midst of change and improvement ALL the time…not just at the flip of a calendar page.

As that change is taking place continually, the scriptural reference to putting new wine in old bottles could not be more relevant and worthy of consideration.

Did you put your New Year goals and intentions inside of an old you, with the same beliefs and ways of operating as you had last year?

If so, consider this a wake up call…before all that luscious new wine of hopes and dreams ends up all over the floor.

An old you can’t hold or ferment a new result.

So, as those new goals start pressing against the walls of the old you bottle, know that the goals are not the challenge…but the re-bottling of you may be.

For this year, rather than cast aside your intentions when they seem to be going nowhere, look instead to where and how you can design a new bottle in which to let them brew.

And, even if old the bottles must break at times, an ongoing commitment to re-bottling will mean that at least some new wine will be created in this New Year of New You.

Want to do a bottle check at the door of 2020? For a new vintage review of your career or business goals, schedule a session here. You’ll move forward faster with a committed listener (and master bottler) involved.

Got re-bottling efforts?

“It is an age of stir and change, a season of new wine and old bottles. Yet, assuredly, in spite of breakages and waste, a wine worth the drinking is all the time being made.” – John Galsworthy

Jan 15

January 15, 2020 – JOLT – Really want to achieve those goals? Buy this insurance!

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much.” – Helen Keller

Self trust is a golden quality to cultivate…

and not enough can be said about developing a sense of inner guidance and self-championship.

However, there’s also something to be said for recognizing one’s own human-ness when it comes to the daily engagement with the ego.

Not to bash the ego, because ambition and drives are part of what moves people and life forward. However, the ego often has a very tricky way of keeping our “self” safe and comfortable…and sometimes inside our “own private Idaho.”

The ego generally drives us for more and better, but can often sabotage our efforts by attachment to old ways of seeing the world, worn out and familiar challenges, or limiting beliefs in our capabilities.

If you or I want to accomplish something we’ve never done before, we simply must act differently and think differently than we have before…and those changes don’t happen inside our comfy, fixed-beliefs bubble.

The answer? Masterminding and accountability.

No matter how smart and effective you already are (or aren’t), there’s only one direction that earnest, vulnerable, and open-kimono engagement with others in a mastermind setting can take you: progress.

Opening the kimono and being willing to reveal your rawness, because it goes against the ego’s desire to “look good,” is a hurdle…but a blessing.

Getting input outside of your own, internal committee of “best thinking” can be challenging…but liberating.

And, committing to another person certain actions you’ll take to move yourself forward — with a “by when” — is a secret key to real growth.

So, given that you are now 1/24th complete with 2020, ask yourself, “Am I serious about these 2020 goals? How will I get the new information I need to support their achievement? And, who will hold me accountable for making the baby steps to get there?”

Find a group. Join a group. Start a group. Masterminding accountability: it does a goal good.

Miss the New Year/New You starting gun? Already have a New Year/New Decade busily in full swing…with seemingly no time to get freshly goaled up? No worries, there’s still time.

For a year-end/year-start review of your career or business goals, schedule a session here. You’ll move forward faster with a committed listener (and questioner) involved.

And for a virtual team of players to hold your goals and commitments moving forward, find out about the upcoming PlayGame Mastermind Accountability Alliance here.

Got goal insurance?

“None of us is as smart as all of us.” – Ken Blanchard

Jan 08

January 8, 2020 – JOLT – Fit for forwarding your 2020?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“The preparation for the ritual is the ritual. – Kate Green

So, now that the annual ritual…

of reflecting, recollecting, reconstituting, resolving and renewing ourselves from one year to the next is behind us, where do we go from here?

Forward. Always forward.

And, ritual or not, that’s the only direction we’re ever going. Yet, how cool is it that life created an arbitrary and invented break in eternity called the “New Year” so as to give us a stop in the regular action for such a valuable game huddle.

Now, just like it was before December, our goal is to keep playing and finding new ways to bring our best-is-yet-to-come onto the field.

A couple helpful concepts to remember, as you bring about the New You/New Year/New Decade, are…

Compassion: remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day…nor will your New You show up after only a week of being in the 2020 arena. (HINT: if you’re really intent on meeting a totally unrecognizeable You this year, he/she will likely only show up in 11 months or so.)

Baby Steps: a pyramid started first with an idea, then with a lot of ingenious thinking of how to get big boulders down a river and across hot sands, and then a system of construction, etc. If you’re interested in creating something to last, accept and nurse the baby steps it will take.

Team: keeping all those acts of initiative and creation to yourself is one sure way to have them fail. “There is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans”…and that is that your commitment to yourself alone will be weaker than your word given to another. Have a team hold you accountable for what you say you want to accomplish.

2020 has arrived. See you at the races!

Miss the New Year/New You starting gun? Already have a New Year/New Decade busily in full swing…with seemingly no time to get freshly goaled up? No worries, there’s still time…and getting support will help!

For a year-end/year-start review of your career or business goals, schedule a session here. You’ll move forward faster with a committed listener (and questioner) involved.

And for a virtual team of players to hold your goals and commitments in check, find out about the upcoming PlayGame Mastermind Accountability Alliance here.

Got ritualized and forward-fitted you?

“We make ourselves up as we go.” – Kate Green

Dec 25

December 25, 2019 – JOLT -A universal season for a reason?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Teacher says every time a bell rings, an angel gets his wings. – Zuzu Bailey

Although it’s been said many times, many ways…

Merry Hanukkah…

Happy Christmas…

Joyous Kwanzaa…

Cool Yule…

Spectacular Solstice…

Rockin’ New Year…

to You!

Find your 2020 TEAM.

I’ve been running local mastermind groups full of folks producing amazing results…and plan to offer the same opportunities virtually in 2020. If you’d like more information, simply respond to this email expressing your interest. We’ll chat personally to assess your 2020 vision and TEAM readiness.

And, if you’d like to explore the impact of a coach on your sidelines as you look to play bigger and better, schedule a session here. Even the pros — especially the pros — have a coach in their Big Game.

Got the universal season?

“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer someone else up.” – Mark Twain

Dec 18

December 18, 2019 – JOLT – When you spread a bruise among a TEAM…you don’t even feel it

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“A bruise is a lesson…and each lesson makes us better. – George R.R. Martin

As we continue to look forward…

to the most ritualistic time of the year for becoming the new and improved version of ourselves – making New Year’s goals, intentions, resolutions, etc. – we want to remember what we are also committing to: bruises.

If you want to grow, then there is an unstated commitment you also make to…
-falling on your face
-building scar tissue
-a bruised ego
-over-stretched capacities
-mental, emotional, and spiritual challenges

The game of becoming the next-best version of ourselves ain’t for sissies. There’s real bumps, trip ups, knock downs, and even tears that come with the territory.

So, in deciding whether to play BIG or stay the same in the coming new year/decade/era of your life, it pays to go in eyes-wide-open.

A good Big Game plan would involve not only a coach — to help you see the game from another perspective, your strategic assets, your blind spots, etc. — but also medics on the sidelines — to remedy and treat the unavoidable bruises that will come from playing.

So, before the Big Game begins (should you choose to play one) in only a couple short weeks, start to consider…

1) Who will be my coach, and a team to play with, in moving by best-self goals forward inside a 2020 perfect vision?

2) Where will I set up my medics on the sidelines, and who will I turn to for support when my various parts of Self get bruised?

It’s an often overused acronym, but it bears reminding that Together Everyone Achieve’s More.

Find your 2020 TEAM.

I’ve been running local mastermind groups full of folks producing amazing results…and plan to offer the same opportunities virtually in 2020. If you’d like more information, simply respond to this email expressing your interest. We’ll chat personally to assess your 2020 vision and TEAM readiness.

And, if you’d like to explore the impact of a coach on your sidelines as you look to play bigger and better, schedule a session here. Even the pros — especially the pros — have a coach in their Big Game.

Got bruise readiness?

“It is better to go bruised to heaven than sound to hell.” – Richard Sibbes

Dec 04

December 4, 2019 – JOLT – I hear that train a comin’…

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Ready or not, here I come! – 2020

When you look back…

did you ever really feel ready or prepared to…
-pick a career?
-have a kid?
-launch a business?

Maybe your answer is “yes”…but I’d say, for the most part, many aspects of your life came about by simply moving forward, doing the best with what you knew at the time, and taking a shot.

Sometimes your shot landed, and sometimes your face landed. But, by simply moving forward, even if that meant falling forward, you went a direction: forward.

2020 is almost here. This particular New Year and new decade is giving motivational folks a lot of kitschy and playful themes to play upon, my favorite of which is “Seeing Clearly.”

You may not feel ready or prepared for a whole new game coming in a few short weeks. And, honestly, there’s no new game coming at all if you don’t want one. It’s everyone’s choice to either choose the made-up ritual of New Year transformation or not.

But, if you ARE interested in getting on the inspirational growth train for your own life, even as it revs up to leave the station, there’s no time like the present to start seeing clearly for New Year/New Decade/New Opportunity ahead.

Next week, I’ll have some tools available for you to begin your take-myself-to-the-next-level prep. Heck, if you email me back directly, I’ll even send you a starter exercise right now.

Yet, no matter where you go, there you are. So, if you’re going into 2020, ready or not, which you will you bring? I suggest the one that’s as ready as possible.

Where, when, and how can you fit your New Year/New Decade/New You planning into your busy holiday schedule? When will you do that? Who will you tell who will hold you accountable? These are GREAT December 4th questions to ask yourself!

If you’d like a year-end/year-start review of your career or business goals, schedule a session here. You’ll more likely move forward when you have a committed listener involved.

Got ready you?

“People get ready, there’s a train comin’.” – Curtis Mayfield

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Nov 27

November 27, 2019 – JOLT – Thanks!

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“No one who achieves success does so without acknowledging the help of others. The wise and confident acknowledge this help with gratitude.” – Alfred North Whitehead

Of all the things you’re doing today…

reading long, inspiring, freedom and self-expression inducing emails is probably not a priority.

So, just a quick note to say THANKS for GIVING me the opportunity to reside in even a small part of your busy and robust life.

Heck, allowing me into your inbox on a weekly basis is actually no small part!

I appreciate your trust in me to regularly give you a little something that may brighten your day and your prospects for a better day tomorrow.

Heads up: based on your recent answers to the CareerGuy survey (thanks again to all respondents), I’ll be finding ways to more pointedly address your greatest needs and desires in the coming months…so watch out for opportunities to go beyond inspiration into effective action on what matters to you most.

Again, thank you, God Bless, and enjoy all that there is in your own life to be thankful for…today, tomorrow, and every day.

If you’d like to get a leg up and plan in place for taking your career or business to the next level in the coming New Year/New Decade, schedule a session here. Taking action in the first minute always beats waiting to the last.

Got thanks giving?

“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” – Meister Eckhart

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