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Aug 01

August 1, 2018 – JOLT – Sight extensions…the newest and next thing!

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“No matter how many goals you have achieved, you must set your sights on a higher one.”- Jessica Savitch

It’s funny how…

when we’re just coming close to achieving a goal, the effort required seems to exponentially increase.

Think about it: it’s easy to start something — a race, a project, an initiative — as it requires little but a good intention and at least a bit of energy to take action.

But, as you near completion, so much has now taken place: obstacles overcome, mind traps endured, the natural entropy of the Universe distracting you.

It seems that both external challenges as well as internal resistance (e.g., fear of success) calls for that that last climb/effort/stretch to be a monumental one.

It’s at that point that it’s smart to set the next goal and raise your sights.

Staying focused on this target which has now all but made it to your doorstep keeps you fumbling and ineffective.

However, picking a new object further out which assumes completion of this goal — and even stands on it’s shoulders — gives you new energy and traction.

It requires active and self-interventional sight resetting: raising the crosshairs onto a much more distant but now somehow see-able next level of your game.

What in your world of splendid plans can get wrapped up quicker by playing a bigger game?

Click Here to schedule a free 15min chat around what’s further out and next for you. 

Got sight extensions?

“You should set goals beyond your reach so you always have something to live for.” – Ted Turner

Jul 25

July 25, 2018 – JOLT – Rethinking your big rocks?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Instead of ‘How do I fit everything in?’ ask yourself ‘What’s most important to fit in?'” – Christine Kok & Asha Dornfest

Many of us have heard…

the story of the philosophy professor teaching his students about time management and life balance by using rocks, pebbles and sand in a jar.

He sequentially filled the jar to the top with large rocks, then small pebbles (to fit between the large rocks), then sand (to fit between the pebbles), after each time asking his students if the jar was full. They consistently claimed it was full…but were proven wrong each time.

He was making a point that we must put the most important things into our life first. By the time we get to the smaller and less significant items (pebbles and sand), whether they fit or not won’t matter as much. However, had we put them in first, we’d miss out on what’s essential.

As much as we’ve heard the story, the problem comes in our continued calibration of exactly what those big rocks are.

How strong is the pull to simply get into the to do’s of the day vs take that walk?

How much easier is it to rush straight to that early morning meeting vs 15 minutes of meditation?

How natural is it to be a bit too quick or short with someone you love vs slow down to listen again?

Yet, when the stress and wacked health of body and/or relationship initiates a wake-up call, all of a sudden certain big rocks come into clear focus.

Many have heard the professor’s story, but haven’t personally evaluated exactly what those big rocks are.

What are they for you, and when will you fit them in the jar today and tomorrow?

Click Here to schedule a free 15min chat around aligning your big rocks.

Got big rock rethink?

“If you’re too busy to laugh, you’re too busy.”- Proverb

Jul 18

July 18, 2018 – JOLT – Rethinking your big rocks?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Run hard, be strong, think big!”- Percy Cerutty

How many of us…

run to the tape…instead of through it?

Granted, it’s a big deal to even make it to the end of a race.

John Bingham, known as “The Penguin,” said “The miracle isn’t that I finished. The miracle is that I had the courage to start.”

So, let’s acknowledge that we are bolder than the average big-idea bear in that we actually began the race on our inspiration, initiative, or dream…and that we’ve run it at whatever pace we could muster.

Yet, there is something to be said about actually completing it powerfully and at our fullest pace until the end.

What strong finishers know is that the end isn’t on this side of the tape, but several yards on the other side.

Running TO the tape has you completing the race too soon: in your mind, your spirit, and your speed.

Running THROUGH the tape in your fullest form has you celebrating every step you’ve taken — the start, the mental trials, the stitches in your side, the near exhaustion — in the most honorable way.

What once bold initiative of yours has a tape in the distance for which you can use a sprint of energy to get through it, not to it?

Click Here to schedule a free 15min end-run chat around a career/business/life race you want to complete powerfully. 

Got through it?

“Only think of two things – the gun and the tape. When you hear the first one, just run like hell until you break the other.” – Sam Mussabini

Jul 11

July 11, 2018 – JOLT- An answer to the endless mystery?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“The wise man doesn’t give the right answers, he poses the right questions.”- Claude Levi Strauss

The problem with finding the answer…

is that you stop asking the questions.

Yet, as we’ve matured beyond the black and white, The Force or The Dark Side perceptions of our youth, there are few questions that have one single answer.

But, alas, there’s comfort in having an “answer.” We can sit on it, rely on it, revert to it, and stay fixed in it.

To do otherwise means we’re open and vulnerable for other possible answers to come in and shake up our steady foundation.

We like already knowing, so we don’t have to deal with other possibilities.

Unfortunately, very often, so goes our careers, our relationships, our plans for what is or isn’t possible for our lives, etc.

When was the last time you treated yourself, your job, your business, your marriage, your health, your plans for the future like a mystery?

There’s this idea called “inquiry” which, of all realms of questioning around, is the one that you never get to the bottom of. defines inquiry as “a seeking or request for truth, information, or knowledge” as well as “the act of inquiring or of seeking information by questioning; interrogation.”

Nowhere in those definitions do I find that the word inquiry involves finding the “answer.”

The coolest thing about inquiry is the idea I once heard from a very smart person: “What if finding the ‘answer’ is the booby prize, and real power comes from living in the questions?”

Where can you step back from an area already fixed in what you “know” and initiate a mysterious inquiry for yourself?

Here’s a short video addressing the tendency to “know” vs playing first with curiosity…something we tend to drop as we “mature.”

And Click Here for a free 15min inquiry into what may be possible outside of what you “know” for your career, business, life.

Got endless mystery?

“The ultimate mystery is one’s own self.”- Sammy Davis Jr.

Jun 28

June 28, 2018 – JOLT – Breathing life into a new generation

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Finish each day and be done with it…tomorrow is a new day.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson

The tendency is to carry…

so much of yesterday into today.

The unfinished business, the things out that need to be put in, the incompletions, the wrongs to be righted, and even the general mood.

That’s the default way of being for human beings.

However, to generate requires something beyond default.

Generate is defined as “to bring into existence; cause to be; produce.”

We don’t often think that we need to do anything to have a day come about. The sun’s going to rise, we’re going to brush our teeth and grab coffee, and then get into what’s ahead of us.

But, without the clear and consciously demarcated choice to generate this day newly, the pull of default is simply too strong…like trying to escape the suck of a black hole in space.

What is a consciously generated ritual, affirmation, or even physical anchor you can put in to create a new generation of life in this new day?

The old business and things to be handled take on a fresh light when they show up in a new generation vs an extension of yesterday.

Got a second half/best half plan, project or initiative you want to breathe new life into? Click Here for a free 15 minute focus on new generation. 

Got new generation?

“With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.”- Eleanor Roosevelt

Jun 20

June 20, 2018 – JOLT – Stats support swinging out

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.”- Babe Ruth

The percentage required for success…

in baseball should give us all some relief.

Ted Williams said “Baseball is the only field of endeavor where a man can succeed three times out of ten and be considered a good performer.”

In the major leagues, .300 always has been regarded as a special number. Like a 20-point-a-game scorer in basketball or a 1,000-yards-a-season rusher in football, it is a benchmark for excellence. A .300 season will get you a pay raise.

However, when we look at our own life, career, pursuit of dreams and excellence, do we give ourselves that kind of leeway, to have 7 strike outs out of 10?

Not usually.

But what new idea, vision, initiative or action might get birthed if we did? Or what persistence might keep a dream already birthed alive?

The drives to “get it right the first time,” “avoid looking bad at all costs,” or “throw in the towel” causes the miscarriage or early death of so many inspirations.

You can say “But life isn’t baseball.”

I’ll respond with “But life is always happening first in your mind…and what chances are you not giving yourself right now because of the fear of striking out?”

Is it a career change? A business venture having you go out on your own? A stretch outside of the comfort zone in some area of health, relationships, creativity?

Look, you can resist and argue with the inspiration of these weekly missives, or you can just use them to take actions that you wouldn’t have anyway.

Who are you going to be after your 7th strike out? Learning and still swinging out, or resigned and aborting.

Take the 8th, 9th, or 10th swing today on something you’ve considered “game over” while you think about Micky Mantle’s quote

Let me know what you see for yourself. And to discuss your game or batting support, Click Here for an at-bat chat.

Got swinging out?

“During my 18 years I came to bat almost 10,000 times. I struck out about 1,700 times and walked maybe 1,800 times. You figure a ballplayer will average about 500 at bats a season. That means I played seven years without ever hitting the ball.”- Mickey Mantle

Jun 13

June 13, 2018 – JOLT – Are you of the size to revitalize?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.”- Marie Curie

Something once said…

about perseverance is that it is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did.

That’s saying a lot. We all have areas of once-inspired-and-vital initiatives, and many of those initiatives have become sources of frustration and a sense of incompletion.

Those splendid ideas, therefore, now take up weighty space in our consciousness, where once they were sources of endless energy and drive.

What to do?

Grow in size to revitalize. The seed once planted can only grow to the extent of the fertile soil in which it was placed.

There’s somewhat of a myth that goldfish can only grow to the size of their bowl. It really has to do more with water quality than tank size. But, yes, cared for properly, goldfish (and all fish) grow until they die.

The question is: have YOU grown to the point where your grand initiative seed can spread itself, or is it planted in a seale.

What new aspects can you learn? What fresh connections can you make? Where can you get support to press up to the next level of realization?

I have a bold initiative of my own, which you can learn about here. Make sure you’re on the list for when the project is complete. And Click Here if you’d like to share your grand initiative with me. Perhaps I can support your perseverance.

Got size to revitalize?

“Never stop fighting until you arrive at your destined place – that is, the unique you. Have an aim in life, continuously acquire knowledge, work hard, and have perseverance to realise the great life.” – A.P.J. Abdul Kalam

Jun 06

June 6, 2018 – JOLT – Some thoughts to apply before you resign…

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Resignation, perhaps the most stifling word in the language.”- Caitlin Thomas

A major killer…

of countless ideas, splendid plans, productive careers and even entire lives is resignation.

Looking at homeless folks camping on the beach, I wonder at what point they finally gave up.

Early in my career, working in Beverly Hills, I’d eat lunch at a local park just off of Rodeo Drive. I noticed a woman there, every day, obviously homeless. Someone said she used to be an attorney and district judge.

Yet, homeless folks are only an extreme case of an all-too-common issue. Resignation can take many forms and infiltrate even the highest of put-together people and households.

Career growth. Relationships. Health and vitality. Personal dreams. Creative self-expression. All are areas ripe for resignation, whether acknowledged or not.

n the career world, before you can resign a job, you have to apply to actually have it. (I’m not an advocate for applying for jobs at all, but saying it only for metaphor purposes!)

In the same way, in all of these areas where we might notice a state of resignation in our lives, sometimes a willful application of effort — in a new way, from a new mindset, with a new inspiration — can often bring about movement and progress to an area which has laid dusty and dormant way too long. 

I’ve had coaching clients drop weight they’ve never been able to lose from a new inspiration. Others have stopped smoking after 30 years (and many attempts) from a new mindset. Yet others have reinvented stale and lifeless romantic relationships from learning a new way of communicating.

Today, your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to ferret out an area (or two or five) of resignation in your own life and attempt a new willful application of effort.

Your relationship/career/body/mind/condition sitting in resignation right now won’t get any worse, for sure. Yet, a new infusion of attention might just start a reverse snowball effect, driving you up a mountain of newfound lightness and freedom.

What’s it gonna be? Accept the resignation…or apply for new hope?

If the only action you can take right now to move beyond resignation is to Click Here, do so to schedule a short conversation. Perhaps there’s a new inspiration/mindset/way for you too.

Got willful application?

“Self-acknowledgment boosts your emotional and spiritual immunity, giving you the strength you need to release the past and rise above fear, doubt or resignation.”- Debbie Ford

May 30

May 30, 2018 – JOLT – – Balancing your teeter before you totter

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Balance is not something you find. It’s something you create.”- Jana Kingsford

The bad news is…

that we don’t generally turn on the creative powers to design balance in our life until we are forced to.

Too often, we hear ourselves say “When I get a chance, I’m going to…” or “I really need to start sleeping/eating healthy/working out/dating/meditating more.”

Yet, that “chance” usually comes in some kind of wake up call.

Take Ariana Huffington, for instance.

Her personal wake-up call came in the form of a broken cheekbone and a nasty gash over her eye — the result of a fall brought on by exhaustion and lack of sleep.

As former president and editor-in-chief of the Huffington Post Media Group, she is celebrated as one of the world’s most influential and successful women.

Yet, as she found herself going from bran MRI to CAT scan to echocardiogram to find out if there was any underlying medical problem beyond exhaustion, she wondered: is this really what success feels like?

It’s a question we all might ask…before we take a blow to something near and dear to our heart. Including our heart.

There are lots of musings on creating successful life balance from the likes of clear successes like Warren Buffett, Oprah Winfrey, and Richard Branson.

But do we have to get on that Top 10 Success List to implement them?

Hmmm…maybe overall balance is the way, not the challenge?? What a concept!!

Right now, before the health/relationship/life emergency wakes you up, where can you proactively implement balance?

What’s the daily practice, new hobby, regular ritual, or actionable commitment you can take on? And who will you tell, to hold you accountable?

If your career possibilities/impossibilities are a source of imbalance, let’s talk. Click Here to schedule a short, balanced conversation. For a sense of career balance folks have gained, see reviews here.

Got balance?

“Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management. Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices.”- Betsy Jacobson

May 16

May 16, 2018 – JOLT – Giving you all you need…

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”- Robert Morley

Did the Beatles have it right?

Is love really all you need?

We need to eat, sleep, recreate, procreate, and pay the bills too, yes?

Absolutely. Yet, each and every other necessary element or activity gets shaped by that one.

Pointing that all-molding element of love toward “self,” even with the…
     -seeming defects
     -dark side

…seems to be a key point of leverage and tipping point.

Short and sweet: toward what aspect of YOU can you point that power today?

Pick one of the above. Tell somebody what you picked, or write it down. Do it. Self-love anyhow. 

On the career front, if you need help finding something to love click here. If you have questions about the potential for feeling the love, see reviews here.

Got all you need?

“The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all.”
– Linda Creed (Lyricist)

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