“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les Brown
We all know what it’s like…
to make decisions.
Every day, in every way, big and small, lasting or fleeting, easy or grueling…we crank them out both consciously and unconsciously.
There’s a ton of wisdom thrown around about decision-making, such as…
“Not making a decision is actually a decision. It’s the decision to stay the same.”
“Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from making bad decisions.”
“The hard part is implementing the decision, not making it.”
However, one thing we don’t often think about is the decisions we’ve made that we’re not thinking about.
Look, we’ve all made lots of decisions that have long gone under the radar of our lives. Some decisions were made during the course of our life experiences, and some from a very early age before we even had a fully formed brain.
“I’m no good at [x].”
“Things always go this way for me.”
“Work is always [descriptive].”
“Men are like this…”
“Women are like this…”
“I’m never good enough.”
The problem with so many decisions going underground, into the subconscious, is that we live our lives as if we’re here today, present in the moment, and yet what’s really running the show is a bunch of age-old decisions we once made at unique, past times in our life.
The decisions we made then got us through those unique times, but may not be the best approach to live the life we want to live NOW.
So, a conscious inventory of our old, hidden decisions can often be the way to free ourselves up in the NOW for opportunities and growth we won’t experience if those old decisions remain hidden.
Tricky business, to get the mind to look at itself and uncover hidden decisions. But, it can be done, and one way is to simply begin writing out the main areas of your life that are important to you and ask…
“When did I decide it was this way in [x] area? What happened to have me decide that? Is that a decision that empowers my life NOW, or might I experience new possibilities by letting it go and making a new decision?”
Not a pastime for lightweights, for sure, but who ever built a great life NOW without doing a bit of heavy lifting?
Want a fun environment in which to made some new decisions? If you’re near LA, join us for our 1-Day Back Forty IGNITE Program this Saturday, October 12, in Long Beach. In a beautiful hotel location, overlooking the harbor and Queen Mary, you’ll walk away with empowering redecisions on some of your biggest past limitations. See details for the program here or schedule a private session here.
“Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision.” – Tony Robbins
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.
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