For the Seeming Self-Sufficient: a remedy outside of yourself -

August 21, 2019 – JOLT – For the seeming self-sufficient: a remedy outside of yourself

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

Aug 21

“Deliberately seek the company of people who influence you to think and act on building the life you desire.” – Napoleon Hill

If we’re really honest…

we know that we often can’t count on ourselves.

Sure, overall, we do a decent job of meeting our obligations and responsibilities. We’re well-meaning and, often, very hard-working folks.

However, when it comes to seeing our own blind spots, discerning our own excuses, and distinguishing our own die-hard (though perhaps masked) commitment to staying in our comfort zones…we aren’t equipped! We simply rarely see, and even more rarely shift, our own limiting thoughts, beliefs and actions by ourselves.

So, when it comes to fulfilling on your own initiatives, good ideas and intentions to grow and expand, it’s a lot like “cobbler’s shoes”: you can dole out helpful input and put fire under the butt of others, but you often can’t or won’t do so for yourself…just like the cobbler and his/her kids who always have the worst shoes in town.

Remedy? Well, there’s a few…and yet they all involve getting outside your own views of yourself, your situations, and your lot in life to become “coachable.”

One remedy might be to get a coach, because a coach can see about you what you can’t: where you stop, where your beliefs keep you in a box, where you sell out on your goals for playing safe, etc.

Another might be to have an action buddy, because when you have a regular person with whom you commit to taking actions — to move your goals forward — you’re more likely to actually do what you say. Otherwise, your action buddy moves on…because you’re simply all talk and no action.

Yet another might be to join a mastermind and accountability group, because tapping into the “master” mind — that body of insight, ideas and wisdom outside of you — and being held accountable to take action by an entire group…well that’s, as they say, a whole ‘nother ballgame.

So, the question for today is: which remedy is best for your ailing goals?

I’d offer to you to simply pick one and get started. Heck, if you’re really up for becoming who you’re meant to be in this lifetime, you might do a remedy trifecta: betting on all three, you simply can’t lose!

But, I’ll bet without betting on at least one, you’ll come up short of what’s truly possible for you.

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Got a remedy outside of yourself?

“The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.” – C.S. Lewis

About the Author

DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.