September 10, 2014, TGIW: Unhumping Hump Day -

September 10, 2014, TGIW: Unhumping Hump Day

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

Sep 10

“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” –Albert Einstein

Sometimes it’s hard to waver from what we believe are our principles or boundaries to adapt to situations or events as they unfold.

We can get offended or believe that somehow our personal value or worthiness is not being recognized. Or, if in pursuit of a goal or a dream, with already-designed pictures of how it should all play out, we quickly begin to think the whole idea was silly in the first place once we hit circumstances that don’t fit those pictures.

I know for myself that what I often consider my principles or value being confronted is really just my ego wanting to survive, look good, and be “special.”  And when it comes to boundaries…why would I really want them anyway?  More separation simply means that less insight, intelligence and outside-of-my-existing “best thinking” can reach me.

Moving towards our career and life dreams may be more like dancing than a straight- course marathon. Flowing and adapting to the music of the moment, the other dancers on the dance floor, and the unique personalities and faculties of the partners we’re presently holding onto.

Jeff Bezos, the visionary founder of, said “If you’re not stubborn, you’ll give up on experiments too soon. And if you’re not flexible, you’ll pound your head against the wall and you won’t see a different solution to a problem you’re trying to solve.”

He also said of Amazon, “We are stubborn on vision. We are flexible on details…”

But, then again, he only had a small dream with a big name, right? NOT!

Where can you bend a bit today to get more of what you really want?

Got committed flexibility?

“Despite my firm convictions, I have always been a man who tries to face facts, and to accept the reality of life as new experience and new knowledge unfolds. I have always kept an open mind, a flexibility that must go hand in hand with every form of the intelligent search for truth.” –Malcolm X

About the Author

DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.