May 27, 2015, TGIW: Unhumping Hump Day...Win or Lose? -

May 27, 2015, TGIW: Unhumping Hump Day…Win or Lose?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

May 27

“When you are 16 there is no fear whatsoever. As you get older you play in more important games and that is when you start thinking about what will happen if you win or lose.” –Wayne Rooney

We’re often held back in our “playing” — whether in career, life, or love — by the fear of losing.

However, if we honestly examine any time we’ve played, did we really lose? If the answer is yes, maybe we can look deeper.

Did we become more aware of what it will take to eventually win at that game?

Did we grow in knowledge, experience, muscle-building and (necessary for that) the requisite scar tissue?

Did our playing simply for the sake of playing beat the stalemate or paralysis of waiting to figure it all out?

What if to “win” means knowing there’s absolutely no way we can ever lose (when all is taken into account)?

What if to “lose” means simply not playing?

IF, just IF that were the case, what hand, move or shot would you play, make or take today?

Got no-way-to-loseness?

 “It is not up to me whether I win or lose. Ultimately, this might not be my day. And it is that philosophy towards sports, something that I really truly live by. I am emotional. I want to win. I am hungry. I am a competitor. I have that fire. But deep down, I truly enjoy the art of competing so much more than the result.” –Apolo Ohno

About the Author

DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.