“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.” – Warren Buffett
There’s always talk about self-limiting beliefs…
but what about self-limiting habits?
We could say that beliefs and habits are intertwined in that one’s beliefs may reflect in their habits.
The problem with rising from either is that you mostly never realize when your self-limiting beliefs are dictating life, nor do you notice when you’re in the process of acting out your self-limiting habits.
It’s those beliefs and habits taking place unconsciously that can never be healed.
So, what do you do if you want to grow to be a bigger person today than you were yesterday?
Wake up to what’s unconscious! Begin to notice when beliefs and habits are playing out…and stop there!
The “stop there” part is critical because, otherwise, you use your adroitly gained insight as a hammer to slam down the tiny opening to freedom you just gained.
The worst thing you can do when you notice an old belief or pattern that no longer serves you is to judge and bash yourself for still having that damn belief or pattern.
The very reason you still have it is because every time it’s shown up to reveal more about itself — so you can understand, appreciate and embrace it — you made it feel like public enemy #1.
(Believe it or not, it was actually birthed inside of an effort to protect you and keep you safe.)
To actually ever heal a persistent belief or habit, it first takes consistent, non-judgmental awareness when as it shows up over and over and over again.
It helps to simply consider visits from age-old, limiting patterns and beliefs to be a sign that you’re becoming more awake and free. With that greater awareness, those once frequent visitors may actually realize — without any forcefulness from you — that they’ve worn out their stay.
What you resist persists. What rusty old habit can you observe and embrace today?
Woken habits is the first stage to moving beyond them. So, be grateful when you catch yourself doing it yet again!
If an age-old habit is waiting until things have gone awry in career or business to get help, notice it…and then schedule a private session here.
Got woke habits?
“I learned to be with myself rather than avoiding myself with limiting habits; I started to be aware of my feelings more. rather than numb them.” – Judith Wright
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.
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