August 11, 2021 - JOLT - Hot Market: Residential Ways of Being Upgrades -

August 11, 2021 – JOLT – Hot Market: Residential Ways of Being Upgrades

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

Aug 11

“I know for sure what we dwell on is who we become.”

Oprah Winfrey


When you think of “residential”. . .

you think of a home, right?

Makes sense, as defines “residence” as: “the place, especially the house, in which a person lives or resides; dwelling; home.”

But if you consider your way of being as a “place in which you live,” then it’s conceivable that we each possess a “residential way of being.”

I mean, just look around and you’ll. . .

  • see that same seemingly grumpy old man every day on your morning walk (agitated)
  • notice that person at the office who always seems to put a positive tone on everything (bubbly)
  • recognize that your mom always interprets you’re not being in touch for a bit as there being something wrong (worried)
  • stop to realize all the times that friend showed up in a pinch (reliable)

So, when we look, we can observe certain primary residential ways of being in those around us. And, guess what that means: we have residential ways of being ourselves!

Now, if we can step outside of ourselves enough (challenging) to notice, we may see some that we like and some that we honestly (if we’re being really, really, real) don’t like.

Far easier than our tainted self-analysis, is to ask others we know and trust to tell us what our residential ways of being may be. (Honest input must be requested profusely!)

And, what I propose is that, should we find such everyday, blind-spot, behind-the-scenes, invisible and unawares ways of being that we may want to drop, it’s totally possible by focusing/studying/reading about/talking about/mimicking the opposite!

So, agitated antonyms into calm; worried into trusting; critical into acknowledging; tight into generous; etc.

Sure, it takes some concerted effort and attention to shift a perhaps dyed-in-the-wool residential way of being but — like my parents who just left her home and hometown of 60 years to move to another home in another state — a “residential upgrade” always portends for a new life ahead.

Given your way of being is the filter through which life comes to you and comes out of you, can you think of a better piece of real estate to develop in this hot market?

I’ll discuss this more today at noon PST in the regular Wednesday Facebook Live video in our Back Forty Midlife Fliers group (join us here).

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This is the structure that will have you becoming stronger and better out of whatever career challenges you’ve been through:

Think differently, play better.


CareerGuy and Back Forty Freedom Flier


Got a residential way of being upgrade?

“Remember how far you’ve come, not just how far you have to go. You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be.”

– Rick Warren

About the Author

DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.