Are Your Cultivating Habit-Breaking Honeymoons? -

July 17, 2019 – JOLT – Are you cultivating habit-breaking honeymoons?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

Jul 17
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“If your habits don’t line up with your dream, then you need to either change your habits or change your dream.” – John Maxwell

Too often we let go of a dream…

based on the outer circumstances we face in bringing it about versus looking to see what must first change internally.

If you’re going to accomplish something you’ve never done before, much less anything truly extraordinary, then who you’ll BE when it’s accomplished will be a different person than the one who started such an initiative.

One of the necessary internal changes which impact who we BE is habits.

God knows, we all have those little niggling — and sometimes major — personal and professional habits that we’d like to be rid of. And, God also knows, that many of us have tried many times to overcome them.

Writers, philosophers, gurus and scientists have waxed eloquent and offered tips and tricks for years on overcoming habits. Hypnotherapists make a living by addressing habits. So, don’t expect any quick fix in the next few paragraphs.

However, what can be appreciated more are the habit-breaking honeymoons. You know: when you actually did stop smoking/biting your nails/cluttering/being late/[fill in the blank] for a certain amount of time.

Sure, you may have “fallen” back into the habit again at some point. But the mere fact that you did, at some point, gain a certain amount of mastery over your “circumstances” proved that it could be done.

It all depends on how you contextualize your “fall [back] from Grace.” Does it empower you to know that you could/can do it? Or do you choose to believe, because you once/twice/multiple times tried and “failed” that it simply can’t be done?

Personally, I’ll choose the former interpretation…and I’ll go for as many habit-breaking honeymoons as I can.

We all know that any relationship can’t be a continual honeymoon, and at some point must have substance to be real. It’s the same with a habit…but the honeymoons keep the excitement up until, one day, that real (and new) relationship with one’s Self lands.

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Got habit-breaking honeymoons?

“Habits are formed by the repetition of particular acts. They are strengthened by an increase in the number of repeated acts. They are also weakened or broken, and contrary habits are formed, by the repetition of contrary acts.” – Mortimer J. Adler

About the Author

DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.