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July 8, 2020 – JOLT – Which What Wins?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

Jul 08
“It doesn’t matter what’s been written in your story so far. It’s how you fill up the rest of the pages that counts.”
Diane Kurzava

The tendency, once we’ve tried and tried…

at something we’d like to create or bring about is to resolve to a “what’s so.”

For example, as a caucasian male who’d really like to be able to salsa like the best of them, it’s easy for me to resort to a “what’s so” about my rhythmic abilities.

For someone else who’d really like to create a successful non-profit, a bestselling book, a life of paid travel, a career of meteoric growth, or [fill in the blank of a big desire], it’s also easy to resort to a “what’s so” full of all the reasons it can’t happen.

What if we caught ourselves just at the point of resolution into “what’s so” and, instead, asked ourselves “what is yet to be discovered?”

Sure, that could sound like just another positive-thinking persistence measure but, on a number of counts, it’s a better way to go.

1) When you open yourself up to there being something you don’t know yet, and don’t even know that you don’t know it yet, there’s an opening-up energy vs a shutting-down closure

2) Behind the physicality of anything coming into existence, there’s the mental and emotional aspects that must be in place first. Asking for what is yet to be discovered can take you deeper into fundamental and foundational structures that need to be built in the unseen in order for your desire to be realized in the physical

3) Even if it is just another positive-thinking persistence measure, that seems a more life-enhancing way to go than the alternative

Face it: it’s way easier to give up and “what’s so” anything you want than to discover another level to getting it.

But the miracles that persistence has made possible throughout history didn’t come easy.

Drop “what’s so” and choose a new “what” in your greatest desire today: what is yet to be discovered here?

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About the Author

DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.