“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” –Socrates
Let’s face it. Change sucks. At least for the moment.
As someone who stands in front of groups touting the long-term benefits of transition–from old ways, jobs, involvements, routines, structures, relationships, life patterns, etc. — if there’s a person on the planet who should know “it’s all good” no matter what happens, I’m that guy.
Yet, hit even me with the unexpected…and there’s that pit in the stomach, the wondering “what’s wrong” that this change came about, anxious of what the future will hold (if it’s not simply an extension or outgrowth of the past), thinking that this “change” (whatever it is) is somehow a bad thing.
Guess what? None of us can escape our immediate human-ness and the primal pull toward the comfort zone! A feeling of control, safety and predictability reside there…and we wallow in those.
But, no big game or great leap forward ever came out of the comfort zone.
That bears repeating: no big game or great leap forward ever came out of the comfort zone.
So, what if beyond the immediate tragedy there was a solid strategy taking us to our next level?
Just what if every single change, if received mindfully, was the path to our greater yet to be?
Just what if we had a method and a mindset — which we remember quickly — for transforming every single seemingly limiting situation from our past and present into an expansive launch pad for our future?
I’d say that is a mindset to be cultivated…because, if there’s one constant companion you’ll never lose, it’s change. Better friend than foe, this wily character.
What personal change can you turn from pure sucking to good lucking today?
“Be relentless in your pursuit for expansion.” –Robert Greene
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.