“You are pre-paving your future experiences constantly by what you think and feel and say.” – Abraham-Hicks
To pave a road…
is to make it smooth, easy to travel, on stable, durable substance vs shifting sand and gravel.
The investment in paved roads pays off in multiple ways, with us getting to where we want to be quicker with less strain on the vehicle.
If we take a few minutes (or even an instant) to apply this principle to our day, an upcoming meeting, or even swallowing a big pill, we can similarly get where we want to be quicker with less strain on our mental, emotional, and physical vehicle.
On the pill front, I sometimes take valerian root at night to ensure good, restful sleep. It seems to only come in a big capsule form, and often gets stuck when I attempt to swallow one.
However, upon applying the simple principle of pre-paving only a moment before, visualizing the pill going down easily, feeling the feeling (ahead of time) of being already relaxed as it travels down my throat, I found that the big pill didn’t pose a problem anymore.
It’s a simple idea, but ask yourself, “Do I take the time to pre-pave before…
–I get out of bed in the morning, envisioning an awesome day of unique surprises?”
–I speak to my partner, child, parent, sibling, coworker, prospect, client, etc., feeling the feeling (ahead of time) of harmonious communication?”
–going into my doctor’s office, ex’s home to drop off the kids, or sales team meeting, already embodying good vibrations and anticipating good news?”
–the necessary interactions I’m required to have with that ‘big pill’ of a boss, landlord, opposing counsel or in-law, playfully imagining a completely unexpected moment of real connection?”
Look, we can all take life as it happens, or we can have an ever so slight (or heavy) hand in directing it.
To twist a Robert Frost poem, “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less [rough], And that has made all the difference.”
Invest in your personal roadways today. It can make all the difference.
Got personal roadwork ahead?
“Five or ten minutes in advance of pre-paving is a lot easier than 24 hours of trying to get your train back on track after it is derailed.” – Abraham-Hicks
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.