“Embrace reality even if it burns you.” – Pierre Berge’
There’s this place called a Private Idaho...
that many of us can find ourselves living in.
For the sake of believing what we want to believe, operating in a way that suits us, and staying in our warm and comfy zones, there’s no better place to be.
However, if you care about anything outside of your silo, your own Private Idaho is the bad part of town…because there’s no information getting through. All means of communication with the outside world are locked down by egoic, totalitarian rule.
That may all sound so broad and poetic, but let’s just look at our jobs, our businesses, and our relationships. Do we really know how we are being perceived by the boss, the spouse/significant other, the employees, or the customers? Not if we don’t ask.
The rub with asking is that we may hear something we don’t like. That’s the egoic, totalitarian rule: fear. We all like good feedback vs bad. Yet, is not knowing worth the pain that comes from only finding out later that we coulda/woulda/shoulda benefited from input way earlier on?
Here’s the short and sweet message today, just like the mini-survey below: take an area of your life which you consider most crucial and solicit some feedback.
“Just wanted to check in: is there anything I should know or anything you’ve been thinking to communicate with me that you haven’t?”
The trick is, ask…and then shut up and listen. Don’t argue, don’t debate, don’t fix, and don’t even respond with anything but “Thank you. I appreciate your honest input.”
Brave enough to play? Wise enough to play? Let’s see what surprises and unexpected opportunities lie in store for you today!
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“The road to success is always under construction.” – Lily Tomlin
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.
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