October 27, 2021 - JOLT - Balancing Your In and Out? - CareerGuy.com

October 27, 2021 – JOLT – Balancing Your In and Out?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

Oct 27

“A man who as a physical being is always turned toward the outside, thinking that his happiness lies outside him, finally turns inward and discovers that the source is within him.”

Soren Kierkegaard


The age-old deliberation around in or out. . .

pits us, in times of questions, wondering in which direction we turn.

LOTS to be said about the internal route, which requires a stillness that we’re not so geared towards in our outwardly doing-focused culture.

Yet, also LOTS to be said out the external route, which often requires a vulnerability and openness to reveal oneself that we’re also not geared towards in our looking-good-focused culture.

So, as in all things in life, a moderate balance is generally the best mix.

For example, in the career, entrepreneurial or even “Big Game Back Forty” goals support work I do with folks, there is definitely the inside road which, if not taken, leaves one being at the service of other people’s/organization’s goals and dreams.

But, when someone gets stuck inside the folds of their navel, in constant pondering with no pro-active outward engagement, they become limited to only their own world view and best thinking.

And, there’s nothing wrong with being at the service of other people’s/organization’s goals and dreams as long as it’s on the path to your own goals and dreams.

So, the questions to ask might be:

Where might I be in a holding pattern inside the wrinkles of my navel trying to figure it all out on my own?
Where might I be running like a hamster on a wheel in the world of effect without giving due diligence to my inner cause?
What’s my next step in striking a balance?

I’ll discuss this idea of in and out balance more today at noon PST in a short, 3-minute LIVE Facebook video in our Back Forty Midlife Fliers group (again, join us here).

Think differently, play better.


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Got balanced in and out?

“Gaze upward, look inward, reach outward, press forward.”

– Thomas Monson

About the Author

DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.