“I like situations that force me to rethink things.”- Marc Almond
It would be so nice…
if it didn’t take certain situations, events or circumstances to force us to reconsider our version of reality.
But, the way life generally goes is “If the truth fits, wear it.”
It’s a real challenge — and seemingly unnecessary one (?) — to actively question what we hold to to be true about [her], [him], [them], [it]…and, the biggest challenge of all, [me].
Yet, all of us accept certain challenges when there’s a possible payoff, a big potential reward for letting go of the comfort zone.
Not to get dark, but there’s a sobering story by Leo Tolstoy of a lawyer, Ivan Ilych, who didn’t question until his deathbed “What if my whole life has been wrong?”
That possibility alone — avoiding such a late wake-up call — is enough of a payoff, isn’t it?
But, to get traction, let’s start with the easy stuff…before moving on to tougher challenges.
Look at the people you work with or hang around today: what can you question of what you hold to be true?
Are the folks at the coffee shop actually friendly and want to chat, if you just make an overture? Is that person down the hall actually a worthwhile human being, if you just discover so by learning something personal about him/her?
Making even little inroads like these gives us the muscle to then start handling the bigger weights like…
If I treat my spouse or significant other like a mystery, what might I discover about them?
If I question what I hold to be true about my parents or kids, how might I see them differently?
If I wasn’t so believing of my Personally-Impossible List, what new directions, actions, or bold moves might I take?
Preemptively asking “What if I have it all wrong?” might be the most right move you can make.
Got preemptive rethink?
“Change can be frightening, and the temptation is often to resist it. But change almost always provides opportunities – to learn new things, to rethink…and to improve…” – Klaus Schwab
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.
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