“When people tell you you’ve changed, it’s only because you stopped acting the way they want you to act.” – Unknown
Most of us want to grow but, at the same time…
feel subtly constrained by the environment we created while we were being who we used to be.
Think of it this way. You want to grow, so you pursue growth. Ideally, that growth produces a new and improved version of you.
However, you bring that new and improved you out into the world in which you’ve lived the previous you — the relationships that still exist, the job or business that still exists, the community or connections that still exists — and that environment is so used to the old you that it gets thrown off by the new you…and maybe even resists the new you.
On the one hand, real friends will always advocate and support your growth. But, even with real friends, there’s an adjustment period…because we’re all initially caught unawares by change. As personally developed as we can be, there’s still a part of us that looks for steady and predictable in the people and things around us.
On the other hand, fair weather friends will be gone, in a continual and futile search for that which is changeless.
So, if you’re gonna grow,
you gotta know
that your existing environment may flow
when you tell them what’s so.
You trained your environment to interact with you the way that it currently does. When you change, retraining your environment is simply part of the package.
Understanding the necessary changes that your personal growth brings about in your environmental structures is just part of the game…yet it pays to know going in. But would you, could you, have it any other way?
I have a personal investment in today’s message in that I, too, will start showing up a bit differently as CareerGuy and our services grow to best meet your needs and desires.
Last week, I conducted a survey of our CareerGuy community of subscribers, to learn what you most want and need. Thanks to all who contributed, and Chris Kauffman was our gift card winner. (If your voice wasn’t heard, you can still speak up for a limited time here.)
As we culminate a decade and move into a new one in only a few short weeks, I’ll be changing things up a bit in how I deliver what I have to best serve your career, business and personal interests.
What environment of your own can you shake up today as a testament to your own growth? And who do you want to show up as in the next decade to come?
If you’re up for some shaking and stirring of the elements of your career or business moving forward, schedule a session here. Sometimes a master mixologist is all you need.
Got growth-induced environmental shakeup?
“People say to me ‘You’ve changed.’ and I say ‘Haven’t you?’ People change. It’s just life.” – Jake Bugg
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.
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