August 6, 2014, TGIW: Unhumping Hump Day Birthday Edition -

August 6, 2014, TGIW: Unhumping Hump Day Birthday Edition

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

Aug 06

“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together” –Marilyn Monroe

If you’re like me, you have your pictures of the way things should go.

One definition of “success” is “to have things turn out as planned.”

Think about that: we live our lives intent to have things turn out as planned!

Maybe that sounds like a “duh!” or “of course!”…and yet are we missing out by having that as our primary aim?

Can we really know that a layoff isn’t the BEST thing that could happen to us? Can we be so certain that a business failure isn’t EXACTLY what we need to take us to the next right opportunity in our life? Can we stand completely convinced that this person, partner or relationship leaving us is not opening up a vacuum for someone or something better?

Change for good often comes masked in what we fear, and is rarely welcomed with open arms.

If we can free ourselves from our own infinite wisdom — our own “best thinking” that keeps us attached to our pictures of the way it should be — there just might be something unexpectedly cool on the other side of the mask.

The good news is, we will generally get what we’re looking for.

Got choice?

“Letting there be room for not knowing is the most important thing of all. When there’s a big disappointment, we don’t know if that’s the end of the story. It may just be the beginning of a great adventure. Life is like that. We don’t know anything. We call something bad; we call it good. But really we just don’t know.” –Pema Chödrön

About the Author

DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.