“You know how advice is. You only want it if it agrees with what you wanted to do anyway.” –John Steinbeck
If you’re like me, you can see it in your kids, but not so much in yourself.
I call it the “aargh of advice”. We may need it, we may have even requested it (not the teenagers, of course), and then there’s what we do with it.
If it fits what we already had in mind, it’s easy and affirmative to incorporate. When it doesn’t fit, however, the aargh begins.
“Change up what I think or, excuse me, what I KNOW is the best way to proceed?”
“Hmmm, let me think about that!” [Said more honestly, “Let me silently find all the justifications possible that the advice is bad.”]
There’s no easy answer on answers — coming from within or without — and no cookie-cutter way to give or get.
Yet, thank God there’s something to at least juggle along with our own best thinking.
Sometimes the biggest aarghs create profound aaahs.
“I think it’s very important to have a feedback loop, where you’re constantly thinking about what you’ve done and how you could be doing it better. I think that’s the single best piece of advice: constantly think about how you could be doing things better and questioning yourself.” –Elon Musk
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.