By Darrell Gurney | Blog
“Good intentions never change anything. They only become a deeper and deeper rut.” –Joyce Meyer
One week into our new year, and many people have already frustrated themselves by either not keeping or even remembering what they were going to change or resolve to do differently.
Years ago, the Guardian reported on a 2009 study by a university psychologist who found that 78 percent of people who make New Year’s resolutions do not follow through on those vows.
Therefore, many just vow to not vow…because why put ourselves through the disappointment? And though the prevailing wisdom is to set specific and measureable goals, when those specifics aren’t met, many throw the baby out with the bathwater and forego any growth movement altogether.
Perhaps simply establishing an overall context for change, setting up structures for reminding ourselves of that context, and then being more fluid with the actions, timetables, and delivery dates might keep more forward movement happening…and give us at least a direction to be proud of in 12 months time.
For example, an overall context of growth one might want to color their year with could be “Expanding intuition, feeling by feeling” or “Cultivating career clarity and courage” or “Joyful, grateful, graceful elevation” of one’s consciousness.
Then, informing the significant others in our life of this direction of growth for our year and requesting in a supportive (and never pejorative) way to be reminded of it as we face whatever comes our way…this could help keep it alive (besides the notes on the mirror, screensavers, etc.).
Perhaps we could then simply watch as the Universe gives us exact and perfect muscle-building opportunities to fulfill on that context?
No guarantees…but, then again, what has broken resolutions or good intentions given us?
Got active context?
“For me context is the key – from that comes the understanding of everything.” –Kenneth Noland
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.
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