“I think in terms of the day’s resolutions, not the years’.” –Henry Moore
It’s that time again: when many people get excited or anxious (or a mixture of the two) of what they’re going to change about themselves or their life in the coming year.
At some level of our development, it’s a darn good thing that we stop, examine and assess where we might get better, do better, or live better than we have in the past. There’s nothing to be knocked about self-reflection.
Yet, oftentimes the whole hullaballoo over what those resolutions will be and the romanced state we feel of what life will be like once they are implemented can get a bit melodramatic…and actually impede our growth.
I once read a study which determined that folks who share with others the things they are “going to do” (someday) actually diminish their chances of fulfilling on those intentions considerably.
The scientists postulated that, in the mere telling of the future accomplishment, the person was able to gain a little bit of juicy-juice from the imagining of that goal fulfilled…even though it was still just scribbles on a page.
Later, after getting the “hit” of those juices, it actually satiated their desire to the point that actually taking action to fulfill the goal began to occur as too much work. In effect, they lived vicarously through their own goals.
I’ve been guilty of it myself. Several years ago, I spent about a month coming up with a seamless and air-tight marketing plan, with themes, actions and deliverables for each month in the coming year. I was so proud of it that I stared at it and could have literally hung it on the wall.
In effect, that’s what I should have done because it would have at least kept me present to how full of bull I was…because I didn’t take action on any single bit of it! It stayed in a really nice manila folder in my backpack for several months before I happened upon it and remembered.
What if we put away the illusory need for a particular date on the calendar to initiate changes, improvements and personal expansion and made every single day a ripe time for transforming ourselves?
Paraphrasing the popular Elvis holiday song, “But if every day could be just like our New Years desire for growth, what a wonderful life this would be.”
Got daily resolve?
“I believe in living life the way that you want to live it every day, and if you do that, you don’t really need to have New Year’s resolutions.” –Tom Ford
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.