“Don’t tell me what you believe in. I’ll observe how you behave and I will make my own determination.” –Alex Trebek
Breaking down words into their parts can be enlightening, and offer entirely new perspectives when applying them to our lives.
When we consider “behave”, the initial flavor might carry some sense of moral or upright way of conducting oneself.
Yet, both the Oxford and Cambridge dictionaries define “behave” as “to act or conduct oneself in a specified or particular way”…which has nothing to do with good or bad.
Then, looking further into the parts, we get “be” and “have” which, ordered in that way, carry a richer flavor and more conscious charge for how to live.
Reversing the common idea that when we have this or that (career, life, relationship, bank account, etc) we will then get to be this or that kind of person, as Steven Covey encourages, we begin with the end in mind. First we be. Then we have…even if only in being itself.
What can you be today, coming from have-ing already arrived?
“You can’t sow an apple seed and expect to get an avocado tree. The consequences of your life are sown in what you do and how you behave.” –Tom Shadyac
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.