“The relationship between commitment and doubt is by no means an antagonistic one. Commitment is healthiest when it is not without doubt, but in spite of doubt.” –Rollo May
Ever look at a completed book, listen to a beautiful composition, engage in an empowering educational or personal development program, or observe a flourishing business and think “Wow, how did this come about? What incredible mind was behind designing this? How could I ever [fill in the blank] like they did?”
We see things in their final or evolving forms and are sometimes inspired to create our own [fill in the blank]. At other times, we observe what has already been created and think “Well, if that’s already out there, then I have nothing to add…” OR “…there’s no need for my version of it…” OR “…there’s no way I could ever bring something to that point of perfection” and we take no action.
It’s been said that we should never compare our insides to someone else’s outsides, meaning that just because you see someone appearing finished and polished on the outside doesn’t mean that they don’t have the same mish-mosh of doubts, fears, or insecurities as we do going on inside themselves.
They may have been, or currently be, exactly where we are, and yet do it/create it/build it anyhow. So, we shouldn’t think of them as supernatural, nor ourselves as super incapable.
When it comes to bringing a dream career/initiative/project/business to fruition, there’s only one way to fulfill on it, and it’s the same way you eat an elephant: one bite at a time.
A great teacher once said to the student “There’s absolutely no way you can do this wrong, and no matter how hard you try, it’s absolutely impossible to do it right. You will simply do it the way you do it.”
If you couldn’t do [fill in the blank] wrong, and yet it was impossible to do it right, what actions would you take to fulfill on your dream this week?
Got [fill in the blank]?
“You’re just sort of searching for this ‘thing’ and sometimes you get it and sometimes you don’t. All music is imperfect, but in jazz since you’re improvising, at least the way I play, I’m trying to follow my train of thought.” –John Abercrombie
DARRELL W. GURNEY, Executive/ Career Coach and 20-year recruiting veteran, supports people at all levels to make fulfilling and profitable career transitions. His first book, Headhunters Revealed! Career Secrets for Choosing and Using Professional Recruiters, was winner of the Clarion Award for Best Book by the Association for Women in Communications and was reviewed in Publishers Weekly. His newest book, Never Apply for a Job Again: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest, has been endorsed by bestselling thought leaders such as Harvey Mackay, Keith Ferrazzi, and Dr. Ivan Misner. A personal and business brand strategist, Darrell’s Stealth Method of networking has helped folks expand their reach within both careers and new client circles. He speaks, leads workshops, and is a media expert on subjects such as recruiting, networking, and finding one’s passion. He was recently named Networking Expert for BeyondB-School.com and offers webinars and programs that get MBA students and working professionals out, connected, and landed.