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Mar 27

March 27, 2019 – JOLT – Are you prepared for just when you least expect it?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Some of the best things in life happen when you least expect them.”- Unknown

It truly pays to prepare in achieving our goals…

and, yet, it’s also baffling when that preparation meets unexpected opportunity.

Once, on a much needed vacation, while sunning in a cabana on a beach in Mexico, a random stranger in swim trunks walked by. We started to chat, about nothing initially. And we casually chatted more later in the hot tub.

That person turned out to be one of the top corporate coaches in the world, the person who the CEOs of big name companies turn to.

He’s now in my phone and will answer any time I call…which I do sparingly.

That time of simply chilling, when I would least expect to make a connection, moved my career and relationships forward.

Guess what? Spring is in the air, and summer is coming. Who knows who will be sitting beside you in an outdoor cafe, or strolling by in swim trunks. Just when you least expect it, you could have an opportunity to connect in a way that moves your career and life forward.

If you’re prepared.

Learning the power of connectedness, the energy of intentions, and how relationships make everything move is good preparation.

Today might be a good time to remember that you’re not alone…and that you never know who is behind you in line for coffee, working out beside you at the gym, or sitting beside you at lunch.

Because, just when you least expect it… 

If you want to make the most of spring in the air and the upcoming summer months to move your career and life forward, take advantage of the limited-time early-bird discount for The Career Captain Relaunch Program taking place on May 10-11 in Irvine, CA. Whether it’s a career change or a business boost, there’s a lot of opportunity to be seized…if you’re prepared.

Got least expect its?

“The best kind of relationships begin unexpectedly. When you get the astonished feeling and everything happens so suddenly…It comes to you just at the right time; the time you never thought it would have.” – Unknown

Mar 20

March 20, 2019 – JOLT – No result is unintended

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“The more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform your dream into your reality.” – Wayne Dyer

The power of intention is often discussed…

as if it’s something you’re either operating by or not.

When someone says they’re being “intentional,” it sounds as if they are…
-really applying themselves
-putting major focus on what they want
-becoming clear and pointed in creating a result

The only thing missing from that explanation is that being “intentional” is actually happening ALL the time, not just when we’re conscious of a desire.

A great mind once said “If you want to know what you’re committed to, look at what you’ve got.”

That’s a sobering thought. What it means is that we’re ALWAYS operating out of an intention, whether it be a conscious one (e.g., a result-focused desire) or an unconscious one. And, regardless of whether that intention is conscious or not, there is a specific result that reflects back on that overt or (more often) hidden intention.

To consider that you’re always creating something, proactively or by default, has you think twice about not thinking, doesn’t it?

The good news is, if you don’t like a result you’re currently experiencing, you can always dig underneath to find the sourcing intention of that undesired result.

Perhaps easier than it sounds…but definitely doable

The playful exercise for today is to simply become aware of when you think you’re being intentional and when you seem to not be. In those place where you are, what are you getting? In those places where you seem to not be, what are you getting?

Conscious power of intention: if you’re reading this, it must be a game you’re intending to play.

Got a result that doesn’t look aligned with what you really want? Schedule a complimentary 15min chat, or go here for a menu of everything from career to business to life-purpose support services. Definitely come with an intention to see the real intention.

Got nothing unintended?

“Intention is one with cause and effect. Intention determines outcome.” –Oprah Winfrey

Mar 13

March 13, 2019 – JOLT- Never underestimate the power of pivot

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Pivoting is not the end of the disruption process, but the beginning of the next leg of your journey.”- Jay Samit

Pursue, pursue, pursue…

then pivot!

Taking an honest look at what you want to achieve, what you’ve noticed as you’ve taken action, and whether continued pursuit is warranted is not easy…but necessary.

There’s so much said about maintaining a relentless eye on the prize. And we don’t want to diminish the power of commitment. And yet…

We all have to make choices. Being responsible means being able to respond. A charging rhino with its head down is not able to respond because it’s not looking…at the forest OR the trees.

So, when and where do you call the shot on whether to pursue or pivot?

That’s the million dollar question. Millions have likely been lost or gained by answering it correctly or incorrectly.

No quick answer…but a few possible guidelines.

1) Did you actually take the actions necessary to pursue? If not, pursue with action.
2) Have you gotten outside of your own analysis with other eyes and ears? If not, pursue with support.
3) Have sufficient learnings justified the investments already made? If not, pursue for growth.

If yes to all of the above, you’ve earned the right to pivot. Pivot with pride into the next pursuit.

Again, no easy answer. Make up your own guidelines. But pursuing and pivoting without some semblance of rules wears out your navigation system.

Can you use a pursue/pivot partner? Schedule a complimentary 15min chat, or go here for a menu of everything from career to business to life-purpose support services. Conscious pursuit and pivoting are golden. 

Got pivot power?

“‘Pivoting’ will become second-nature and ‘Fail early; fail often’ will become your life motto.” – Isabel Hirama

Feb 27

February 27, 2019 – JOLT – The pearly gates of right associations

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“You need to associate with people that inspire you, people that challenge you to rise higher, people that make you better. Don’t waste your valuable time with people that are not adding to your growth. Your destiny is too important.” – Joel Osteen

The pull is often to hibernate…

with our grand plans and visions for the future.

The last thing we want to be accused of is of being a pipe-dreamer, impractical, or having our head in the clouds.

Some of us are blessed with very close family and friends with whom we can share our dreams. Many are not.

Scripture tells us to avoid throwing “pearls before swine” and, therefore, many withhold to protect their visions from discouraging bullet-holes. It’s hard to think of family and friends as “swine”…but sometimes, when it comes to support, the shoe fits.

Problem is, when an idea or vision is kept to close to the chest, it often smothers for lack of air.

So, where do we give air to our dreams? With others who will treat them as sacred as we do.

The power of consciously designed association has been known by many, and is the benchmark of all who’ve chosen to “Think and Grow Rich.”

At first, it feels a bit sketchy to lay our insides out on the table for others to see. But, when placed before an association of like-minded and like-committed folks, miracles can happen.

When will you start interviewing folks for your own personal mastermind?

What idea or inspiration of yours would be a terrible thing to waste?

For those local to Southern California, there will be an entrepreneur accountability group starting up in March, with an introductory event on Monday, March 4. See the details by clicking either link:

Don’t buy into believing you’re in a pig pen. Consciously find those who will appreciate and polish your pearls. The world then becomes your oyster.

Have a pearl you want to polish? Schedule a free 15min chat, or go here for a menu of everything from career to business to life-purpose support services. The pearl-bearing shell that’s never cracked open benefits nobody.

Got pearl bearing association?

“The power of association is stronger than the power of beauty; therefore, the power of association is the power of beauty.”- John Ruskin

Feb 20

February 20, 2019 – JOLT – Are your ideas worth birthing?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Accountability separates the wishers in life from the action-takers that care enough about their future to account for their daily actions.”- John Di Lemme

A good idea…

and a $1.85 will get you a cup of coffee.

A good idea with action will get you moving.

A good idea, with action, plus accountability will get you playing.

And, playing accountably with others brings ideas to results.

When it comes to entrepreneurship, many are too scared by statistics to take action on their good ideas. Sure, the SBA says 96% of all new businesses fail within 10 years…but I take issue with the word “fail.”

A 2013 study in the Journal of Applied Psychology says that real growth and learning actually comes from things not working out (i.e., “failure”), coming to assessments and conclusions based on those “mistakes,” and then implementing those new learnings in future situations.

The truth is that many successful entrepreneurs have a string of “failures” behind them. They start, fail, and start again. With persistent assessment and learnings, some reach success.

The question is, are you willing to get on that roller coaster for the thrill of the ride and the satisfaction of having played?

If so, you want to fill the other cars with fellow ride enthusiasts, because roller coasters are best enjoyed with others who will hear you scream and catch you if you start to fall out.

For those local to Southern California, there will be an entrepreneur accountability group starting up in March, with introductory events happening the next two Mondays. See the details by clicking either link:

Whether your good idea is to create a business or otherwise shift life, keeping it to yourself will ensure an early grave.

Find folks to hold you to account for the idea graciously given you. Give it action. Give it accountability. Give it life.

Want to bring an inspiration to life? Schedule a free 15min chat, or go here for a menu of everything from career to business to life-purpose support services. Every inspiration deserves its birth canal.

Got idea birthright?

“On good teams coaches hold players accountable, on great teams players hold players accountable.”- Joe Dumars

Feb 13

February 13, 2019 – JOLT – Making second-best best

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“There are more tears shed over answered prayers than over unanswered prayers.”- Teresa of Avila

We often think we know what’s best…

for us, and even for many of those around us.

Our amassed wisdom, whims, wants and wishful thinking tell us the preferred and ideal path.

And, yet, those routes or results aren’t always realized.

We then have two tracks of thought to choose between:

1) What went wrong?

2) What went right?

Neither track is “correct,” and you might even, temporarily, start down one before choosing to jump track.

Yet, it’s pretty clear that one will, ultimately, leave you empowered, while the other will, ultimately, leave you disempowered.

Look, what will follow your ideal not turning out will initially seem “second-best”…but for only as long as you stay on Track 1.

The question is, how fast can you move yourself to second-best being best?

Want support in playing for something better, best, next best? Schedule a free 15min chat, or go herefor a menu of everything from career to business to life-purpose support services. You only lose when you stop playing.

Got best second-best?

“Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out.”- John Wooden

Feb 06

February 6, 2019 – JOLT – Realtime balance – it may look different than you think

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”- Albert Einstein

In a particularly difficult pose the other day,

my yoga instructor said something apparently obvious but, upon reflection, not so much so.

“Balance doesn’t mean being still. There’s constant motion going on.”

This bit of wisdom related, of course, to my attempt to balance, for an extended period of time, on one foot, and the constant juggling of weight required to do so.

But then, I thought of the common desire of people wanting to find “balance” in life: work-life balance, living a balanced life, etc.

If you take just a moment to check in with yourself on the images those oft-stated desires evoke, you might notice a picture-perfect scene where all runs smoothly with ease, rainbows and unicorns: a world of peace and tranquility.

Yet, if we get real with what “balance” truly is, it’s not necessarily pretty and unchallenged, but actually challenged like hell, with lots of movement, tons of juggling and requiring high-alert attunement.

I like a sobering, Jack Welch quote which says “There’s no such thing as work-life balance. There are work-life choices, and you make them, and they have consequences.”

Balance sounds like an ideal to get to, and we can for sure all keep our attention focused there (like my attention on my right foot). Yet, we may lighten our idealism load by realizing that we’re probably doing a fair job of dealing with the shifting weight distribution even now.

Balance isn’t stillness, but the constant juggling of energies we engage in to stay upright. And, like any yoga pose, the more we practice it, the better we get.

For now, you’re still standing, and you’re still moving. That’s balance.

Would you like some support on the mat? Schedule a free 15min chat, or go here for a menu of everything from career to business to life-purpose support services. Stretching: it does a body good.

Got realtime balance?

“Motion is created by the destruction of balance.'”- Vincent Van Gogh

Jan 30

January 30, 2019 – JOLT – The double-intentioned dance

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.”- Alan Watts

When you want to change something,

which is the basis of all New Years resolutions, you’ve called for chaos to enter your life.

To create a different result than what you’ve had in the past (aka change), you have to do things differently and think differently.

So, guess what? You’d better expect an undefined period ahead of you in which you’ll be fumbling and bumbling (as you do things differently) and feeling schizophrenic (as you think differently).

Another word for that is: chaos. And, we all know that change/chaos doesn’t happen/end overnight.

So, in the midst of chaos, what can you do to lessen the stress? Simply remember that life is a miracle.

When you allow yourself to appreciate, believe in and even count on the miraculous, your face loosens up, your demeanor relaxes, and you might even crack a smile or a giggle.

A more enjoyable dance of progress comes in holding both intentions simultaneously:

1. Today, I’ll invite the chaos that comes with the changes I’m committed to, while
2. Today, I’ll remember that life is a miracle where anything is possible.

Care to dance?

There are a few moves I can share to best enjoy your time on the dance floor. Schedule a free 15min chat, or go here for a menu of everything from career to business to life-purpose support services. 

Got change dance?

“Ego says ‘Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.’ Spirit says ‘Find your peace, then everything will fall into place.'”- Marianne Williamson

Jan 23

January 23, 2019 – JOLT – Unexpected, yet part of the dance…

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Time isn’t the main thing, it’s the only thing.”- Miles Davis

Goals are meant to keep us focused…

because we all know how fast we can be distracted by squirrels running this way and that.

Living by an effective schedule, to achieve those goals, is an art form…requiring constant stretching toward mastery.

And, even in the middle of those goals, life happens. As a matter of fact, John Lennon sang “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”

Dancing with our goal-focused plans and life is, well, the dance of life.

As you continue moving into your New Year of the New You you’re creating, getting dirty and out of control to achieve those goals (see last week’s JOLT), remember that life will keep coming at you, in ways such as…

-your father calling to chat, just when you’re in the middle of something “important.”
-your child, spouse, coworker or business associate needing someone to lean on.
-the car, computer, cat, or checkup requiring focus away from your main focus.

So, expect the unexpected, and even plan for it. It makes the dance so much smoother.

How many unexpecteds can you plan for having today?

Want support in dancing toward your goals? Schedule a free 15min chat, or go here for a menu of support services in everything from career transition to business expansion to life purpose refinement.

Got dance of the unexpected?

“Respect people who find time for you in their busy schedule, but love people who never look at their schedule when you need them.”- Unknown

Jan 16

January 16, 2019 – JOLT – Getting down and dirty…

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“If a cluttered desk is the sign of a cluttered mind, of what, then, is an empty desk a sign?” – Albert Einstein

There are those who would constrain their goals…

to ways and means which keep things clean, orderly and efficient.

God bless them!! But…

If Alexander Fleming had played by those rules, there would have been no penicillin.

If Albert Einstein wore socks and combed his hair, who knows how that misdirected attention would have cost us?

Heck, Mark Zuckerberg and Steve Jobs are and were notoriously known for disheveled workspaces.

We often limit ourselves too much from fear of getting dirty or things getting out of control.

In the ’70s, Steve Martin produced a comedy album entitled “Comedy is Not Pretty.”

Very often, for those who are willing to get dirty and be messy in the pursuit of their dreams, achieving those goals envisioned in easier, wistful, holiday times (e.g., New Years resolutions) will not be pretty.

But a nice roast pig or holiday ham (sorry vegetarians) doesn’t come from a pretty pen.

As you get into the mud, blood, sweat, tears and fears of going for the gold in this new year of new you intentions, remember that all those can be washed off after the finish line.

This year, play dirty. Better yet, play ugly.

Need some help rolling up your sleeves and pant legs? Schedule a free 15min chat, or go here for a menu of support services in everything from career to life/purpose. 

Got playing ugly?

“I embrace the messiness of life, I find it so beautiful actually.”- Brad Pitt