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Aug 28

August 28, 2019 – JOLT – Slap in the face or on the back – you choose!

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Make finding the good in others a priority.” – Zig Ziglar

We can all get so busy…

that seemingly very small, human-decency considerations can fall through the cracks.

And yet, when we happen to be on the side of needing a little help, compassion, uplift or supportive forgiveness, we sure appreciate such consideration.

I think it’s pretty clear by now — to those of us who got the memo — that nobody is perfect. We’re all going to have our good days of highest Self expression as well as our not-so-good days of dealing with the smaller self.

But the idea of “keeping one’s side of the street clean” at all times, I believe, creates a space in which others can find it in themselves to make room for our imperfections.

When we’re jumping on the foibles, missteps, and lapses in greatness of others, for sure we set ourselves up for a non-compassionate backlash when we, as the yet-ascended masters which we are, show up as less than polished.

But, when we contribute from a spirit of service, and are quick to acknowledge when we make the inevitable mistakes (aka “learning experiments”) that any player-in-pursuit-of-greatness will make, the backlash often turns into a back slap of “Don’t worry about it. You go guy/gal. Get out there on the field and keep playing!”

So, in the midst of our days of doing our best — which, I believe, is what all of us are actually trying to do with what we know in the moment — can we make room for the blips in greatness of others in the same way we appreciate our own blips being indulged?

Where can you offer a supportive back slap to someone who may not being playing their best-Self game today? As the old adage says…”what goes around comes around.”

Summer Discount Ends THIS WEEK! My core initial coaching sessions are $50 OFF. Whether you’re exploring a career change (Career Review Strategy Session), wanting to grow your business as an owner or executive (PlayGame Big Game Coaching Session), or interested in designing a second half of career and/or life based on play, passion and purpose (Back Forty Big Game Coaching Session), take advantage of the summer discounts to support you in playing bigger here.

Also, if you’re near Long Beach, CA, I’ll be starting up a small mastermind group shortly. Reach out to me quickly if interested…like TODAY!

Got back slapping support?

“When you choose to see the good in others, you end up finding the good in yourself.” – John Spence

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Aug 21

August 21, 2019 – JOLT – For the seeming self-sufficient: a remedy outside of yourself

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Deliberately seek the company of people who influence you to think and act on building the life you desire.” – Napoleon Hill

If we’re really honest…

we know that we often can’t count on ourselves.

Sure, overall, we do a decent job of meeting our obligations and responsibilities. We’re well-meaning and, often, very hard-working folks.

However, when it comes to seeing our own blind spots, discerning our own excuses, and distinguishing our own die-hard (though perhaps masked) commitment to staying in our comfort zones…we aren’t equipped! We simply rarely see, and even more rarely shift, our own limiting thoughts, beliefs and actions by ourselves.

So, when it comes to fulfilling on your own initiatives, good ideas and intentions to grow and expand, it’s a lot like “cobbler’s shoes”: you can dole out helpful input and put fire under the butt of others, but you often can’t or won’t do so for yourself…just like the cobbler and his/her kids who always have the worst shoes in town.

Remedy? Well, there’s a few…and yet they all involve getting outside your own views of yourself, your situations, and your lot in life to become “coachable.”

One remedy might be to get a coach, because a coach can see about you what you can’t: where you stop, where your beliefs keep you in a box, where you sell out on your goals for playing safe, etc.

Another might be to have an action buddy, because when you have a regular person with whom you commit to taking actions — to move your goals forward — you’re more likely to actually do what you say. Otherwise, your action buddy moves on…because you’re simply all talk and no action.

Yet another might be to join a mastermind and accountability group, because tapping into the “master” mind — that body of insight, ideas and wisdom outside of you — and being held accountable to take action by an entire group…well that’s, as they say, a whole ‘nother ballgame.

So, the question for today is: which remedy is best for your ailing goals?

I’d offer to you to simply pick one and get started. Heck, if you’re really up for becoming who you’re meant to be in this lifetime, you might do a remedy trifecta: betting on all three, you simply can’t lose!

But, I’ll bet without betting on at least one, you’ll come up short of what’s truly possible for you.

Summer Discount Extended! My core initial coaching sessions are $50 OFF. Whether you’re exploring a career change (Career Review Strategy Session), wanting to grow your business as an owner or executive (PlayGame Big Game Coaching Session), or interested in designing a second half of career and/or life based on play, passion and purpose (Back Forty Big Game Coaching Session), take advantage of the summer discounts to intentionally grow here.

Also, if you’re local to Long Beach, CA, I’ll be starting up a small mastermind group shortly. Reach out to me quickly if interested…like today!

Got a remedy outside of yourself?

“The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.” – C.S. Lewis

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Aug 07

August 7, 2019 – JOLT – Dark knights are your best best growth buddies

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Don’t go through life, grow through life.” -Eric Butterworth

The first big choice…

is whether you want to grow: as a person, in your business, your relationship, your health, etc.

It’s easy to simply say “Sure!” because it seems like the right/moral/honorable direction to go. But a conscious growth choice requires more consideration.

Real growth vs lip-service has a catch: you’ll have to get uncomfortable.

And that too becomes something we often nonchalantly respond to with “of course!”…but when the friction, challenge, adversity, or time-under-tension increases, we sometimes forget that we chose this!

How often do we envision our growth coming from some fortunate breakthrough, turn of favorable events, or white knight showing up at our doorstep?

Mind you, if you’re going to vision, it’s best to throw mental darts toward the targets you want.

Yet, realizing that what actually shows up in your experience — IF you’ve really taken on a conscious intention toward growth — is exactly and perfectly what you need…that’s what separates the growers from the dart throwers.

Your empowering exercise for today, should you choose to accept it, is to briefly analyze an area of your life in which you’ve expressly stated that you want to grow and to see the perfection in everything that’s come your way other than what you envisioned or expected.

Inside of a context of intentional growth, the seeming dark knights you confront are actually the first assists toward reaching your desires.

Summer Discount Extended! My core initial coaching sessions are $50 OFF. Whether you’re exploring a career change (Career Review Strategy Session), wanting to grow your business as an owner or executive (PlayGame Big Game Coaching Session), or interested in designing a second half of career and/or life based on play, passion and purpose (Back Forty Big Game Coaching Session), take advantage of the summer discounts to intentionally grow here.

Got a dark knight assist?

“One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.” -Abraham Maslow

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Jul 31

July 31, 2019 – JOLT – Disappointment Relief Plan: in case of emergency

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Faith that it’s not always in your hands or things don’t always go the way you planned, but you have to have faith that there is a plan for you, and you must follow your heart and believe in yourself no matter what.” – Martina McBride

If you’re up to anything extraordinary…

or even just slightly above the average person’s aspirations, you’d better be ready for things to not work out the first time. Maybe not even the second, third or twelfth time.

We’ve all heard the story of Abraham Lincoln’s “Failures” path to the Presidency, but it never hurts to remind ourselves of it. However, at this link (too much to copy here), you can see juxtaposed beside his famous “failures” list all the rarely mentioned “successes” that occurred in his pre-presidential life.

Look, ask anyone for their favorite rags to riches, zero to zillionaire, or loser to light beam story, and they’ll tell you one. They’re good to hear, because they inspire us.

Yet, one thing we want to build into our own “failures” path to our own dream, as Professor Lucas Morel did with Lincoln’s story at the link above, is a constant awareness of what did work out and the wins that did happen. What if we put a similar list together?

In college, I once heard the then Mayor of Austin, TX, Carole Keeton McClellan, say that “If people aren’t having issues with you, you’re not doing much.”

It’s the same way with the goals and dreams that you’re pursuing: if you’re not experiencing challenges and disappointments, you’re not up to much.

So, having such a ready-made “Disappointment Relief Plan” may be good in case of emergencies. And, if you want to play big, hope and pray that you’re pulling it out regularly!

Throughout July (LAST DAY!) my core initial coaching sessions are $50 OFF. Whether you’re exploring a career change (Career Review Strategy Session), wanting to grow your business as an owner or executive (PlayGame Big Game Coaching Session), or interested in designing a second half of career and/or life based on play, passion and purpose (Back Forty Big Game Coaching Session), take advantage of the summer discounts to further your dream here.

Got a disappointment relief plan?

“Disappointments are just God’s way of saying ‘I’ve got something better.’ So, be patient, have faith, and live your life.” – Unknown

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Jul 24

July 24, 2019 – JOLT – Contrarian muscle workout anyone?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Different things work for different people.” – Ronnie Coleman

The only reason to do things differently…

than how we’ve always done them is if we want different results.

If all is well, life is good, and all our dreams are coming to pass, then we don’t fix what isn’t broken.

But when there’s that long-held intention to reach a particular goal which has simply remained a long-held intention…then there’s a reason to explore doing things differently.

Too often we forget that, and focus on the outer circumstances and seeming blocks to getting what we want vs looking at our personal reality on the inside.

There’s the story of a wise woman whom folks would come from all over the world to seek her guidance.

One person made it to the top of the mountain and expressed his dismay at not achieving his desires, to which the wise woman responded: “What you must do is become very disciplined and focused, and make sure all of your efforts are efficiently utilized to reach your goal.”

Another person arrived shortly afterwards, also expressing dismay at not reaching his desires, to which the wise woman responded: “What you must do is relax, learn to go with the flow, trust that the process is coming about to take you exactly where you want to go.”

At the end of the day, the woman’s assistant questioned why these two individuals with the same issue were given such starkly opposite guidance, to which she responded: “The first individual generally lives life in a laissez-faire way and has not practiced the muscles of orderly intention. The second person generally over-analyzes and tries to guarantee things will work before he takes a step forward. Each must work another muscle to move beyond where they are.”

Question for today: what other muscle might you employ/wake up/reactivate/find to get where YOU want to go?

Throughout July, my core initial coaching sessions are $50 OFF. Whether you’re exploring a career change (Career Review Strategy Session), wanting to grow your business as an owner or executive (PlayGame Big Game Coaching Session), or interested in designing a second half of career and/or life based on play, passion and purpose (Back Forty Big Game Coaching Session), take advantage of the summer discounts to further your dream (and work other muscles) here.

Got a contrarian muscle workout?

“Wow, I really regret that workout.” – Nobody. Ever.

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Jul 17

July 17, 2019 – JOLT – Are you cultivating habit-breaking honeymoons?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“If your habits don’t line up with your dream, then you need to either change your habits or change your dream.” – John Maxwell

Too often we let go of a dream…

based on the outer circumstances we face in bringing it about versus looking to see what must first change internally.

If you’re going to accomplish something you’ve never done before, much less anything truly extraordinary, then who you’ll BE when it’s accomplished will be a different person than the one who started such an initiative.

One of the necessary internal changes which impact who we BE is habits.

God knows, we all have those little niggling — and sometimes major — personal and professional habits that we’d like to be rid of. And, God also knows, that many of us have tried many times to overcome them.

Writers, philosophers, gurus and scientists have waxed eloquent and offered tips and tricks for years on overcoming habits. Hypnotherapists make a living by addressing habits. So, don’t expect any quick fix in the next few paragraphs.

However, what can be appreciated more are the habit-breaking honeymoons. You know: when you actually did stop smoking/biting your nails/cluttering/being late/[fill in the blank] for a certain amount of time.

Sure, you may have “fallen” back into the habit again at some point. But the mere fact that you did, at some point, gain a certain amount of mastery over your “circumstances” proved that it could be done.

It all depends on how you contextualize your “fall [back] from Grace.” Does it empower you to know that you could/can do it? Or do you choose to believe, because you once/twice/multiple times tried and “failed” that it simply can’t be done?

Personally, I’ll choose the former interpretation…and I’ll go for as many habit-breaking honeymoons as I can.

We all know that any relationship can’t be a continual honeymoon, and at some point must have substance to be real. It’s the same with a habit…but the honeymoons keep the excitement up until, one day, that real (and new) relationship with one’s Self lands.

Throughout July, my core initial coaching sessions are $50 OFF. Whether you’re exploring a career change (Career Review Strategy Session), wanting to grow your business as an owner or executive (PlayGame Big Game Coaching Session), or interested in designing a second half of career and/or life based on play, passion and purpose (Back Forty Big Game Coaching Session), take advantage of the summer discounts to further your dream (and alter your habits) here.

Got habit-breaking honeymoons?

“Habits are formed by the repetition of particular acts. They are strengthened by an increase in the number of repeated acts. They are also weakened or broken, and contrary habits are formed, by the repetition of contrary acts.” – Mortimer J. Adler

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Jul 10

July 10, 2019 – JOLT – Problems deserve a little joy out

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“We don’t remember the days. We remember the moments.” – Cesare Pavese

The thrust of each day…

is solving problems. We solve them for our customers, for our families, our community, etc.

One of the reasons companies prize college grads and MBAs is their demonstrated ability to solve problems.

We elect our leaders based on their seeming and/or demonstrated abilities to address and solve problems.

No doubt, there’s big business, big politics and the biggest focus of life in solving problems.

So, it’s easy to start and conduct each day with a focus on the problems to be solved before us. Such is life, and many of us even enjoy it: they get our juices flowing!

Yet, somewhere in the midst, there’s this novel idea of living a happy and joyous life.

The problems, the solving of them, and the elimination of them may give us a rush of accomplishment (aka, “joy”)…but what about joy independent of problems?

Look, we all need to pay the bills (another problem) and, therefore, the constant addressing of problems will always be with us.

But can we do so on top of a resident way of joyful being? Or can we, at least, every few hours of every day, take a “Joy Out” to remember the happy place we’re truly playing for? And can we do that without substances?

How can you give yourself a natural Joy Out today, in the midst of those juicy problems you have your hands so deep into?

Throughout July, my core initial coaching sessions are $50 OFF. Whether you’re exploring a career change (Career Review Strategy Session), wanting to grow your business as an owner or executive (PlayGame Big Game Coaching Session), or interested in designing a second half of career and/or life based on play, passion and purpose (Back Forty Big Game Coaching Session), take advantage of the summer discounts to Joy Out those problems here.

Got joy outing?

“There’s a treasure hidden in every moment. The joy of life is finding it!” – Katrina Mayer

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Jul 03

July 3, 2019 – JOLT – Remembering to BE your FREE

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Freedom is nothing else but a chance to be better.” – Albert Camus

Tomorrow, we get another chance…

to celebrate freedom in the U.S.

Freedom is a concept with many meanings and tangents, each person with his or her own picture of what it is to be free.

Sometimes, the right to elect one’s legitimate government, free speech, freedom of the press, assembly, and so many others we, as Americans born in America, take for granted.

However, there’s a reason so many folks have immigrated to the US throughout history: those basic freedoms don’t exist everywhere.

But, beneath those foundational freedoms, yet supported by them, are other certain freedoms we don’t necessarily think about…such as the freedom to smile, laugh and self-express.

On a recent trip to Russia, I was informed by a Moscow tour guide that ONLY over the last decade or so will you now see everyday folks on the street sometimes crack a smile or, God forbid, seem to be happy or laughing for no reason.

My wife, originally from Leningrad (now Saint Petersburg) even warned me — the down-home, strike-up-a-conversation-with-anyone, Texan-at-heart — to not smile at anyone on the metro because, in her time, that meant something salacious.

She also informed me of an old, Communist-Russia adage which says “Laughing without a reason is a sign of stupidity.”

So, the underlying message in that culture, which it seems to only now be rising from, is “Don’t show happiness. Don’t be friendly. Life is serious and significant.”

Again, that’s only one instance of the freedoms we have here that many in the world don’t.

So, during this celebration of our country’s historical, torch-bearing championing of freedom, let’s remember the big pillars of freedom and yet appreciate those friendly hellos on the street, bursts of laughter in outdoor cafes, and smiles given for no reason whatsoever because of where we’re blessed to live.

Perhaps the greatest freedom is the freedom to be.

Throughout July, my core initial coaching sessions are $50 OFF. Whether you’re exploring a career change (Career Review Strategy Session), wanting to grow your business as an owner or executive (PlayGame Big Game Coaching Session), or interested in designing a second half of career and/or life based on play, passion and purpose (Back Forty Big Game Coaching Session), you can take advantage of the summer discount here.

Got freedom to be?

“My definition of a free society is a society where it is safe to be unpopular.” – Adlai Stevenson

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Jun 26

June 26, 2019 – JOLT – The stamina to try… again and again

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison

If, at first, you don’t succeed…

then you’re probably on the road to growth and development.

We spend so much time planning and strategizing – IF we’ve even come that far with our countless ideas and splendid plans – that, once we actually launch/open for business/go live, there’s a lot of self-pressure to succeed.

Yes, success is sweet! And, many would-be flights crashed and burned before success touched Kitty Hawk.

So, can we be as excited about crashes, burns, fails, or even epic fails as we are about “success”?

There’s an old adage that success comes from good decisions; good decisions comes from wisdom; wisdom comes from experience; and experience comes from bad decisions.

Question is: are we willing to travel that path upward toward success?

Where can you take one of your recent “bad” decisions today and do a multi-level upgrade to success?

It may be “the road less traveled”…but you might as well leave your footprints on it.

Throughout June, I’ll be offering discounts on certain career and life-enhancing online programs…so stay tuned. Grab today’s offer above to get a $30 discount on any career service, even some which are already at Summer Special rates. Use coupon code “$30OFF” for any service here.

Want upgrade support? Schedule a complimentary 15min chat, or go here for a menu of many ways to make necessary shifts.

Got trying stamina?

“Behind every successful man there’s a lot of unsuccessful years.” – Bob Brown

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Jun 19

June 19, 2019 – JOLT – Inventing reasons to change

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Every success story is a tale of constant adaptation, revision and change.” – Richard Branson

Change can definitely be said…

to be one of the most difficult challenges of life…right up there with moving, taxes and death.

The good news is that it’s possible — for everyone, in any situation, at any time.

The bad news is that it generally requires a big enough reason to make the choice to change, a heavy enough pound (or more) of flesh to be given if we don’t.

Often, it’s only after the flesh has been taken that the real cost of resistance to change is realized.

However, it’s possible to foment a crisis, when necessary, to make required changes.

The word “foment” means to instigate or foster, such as when one creates a rebellion.

Perhaps we don’t learn the art of making up crises until we’re forced to develop that ability…but it’s an important life skill to nurture.

So, just for the sake of a good workout — and for building a muscle you may not utilize as much as others — in what area of life could you foment a crisis for yourself today…to make an overdue and necessary change?

Throughout June, I’ll be offering discounts on certain career and life-enhancing online programs…so stay tuned. Grab today’s offer above to get a $30 discount on any career service, even some which are already at Summer Special rates. Use coupon code “$30OFF” for any service here.

Want a crisis supporter to help make a change? Schedule a complimentary 15min chat, or go here for a menu of many ways to make necessary shifts.

Got enough reason to change?

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” – Leo Tolstoy

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