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Dec 18

December 18, 2019 – JOLT – When you spread a bruise among a TEAM…you don’t even feel it

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“A bruise is a lesson…and each lesson makes us better. – George R.R. Martin

As we continue to look forward…

to the most ritualistic time of the year for becoming the new and improved version of ourselves – making New Year’s goals, intentions, resolutions, etc. – we want to remember what we are also committing to: bruises.

If you want to grow, then there is an unstated commitment you also make to…
-falling on your face
-building scar tissue
-a bruised ego
-over-stretched capacities
-mental, emotional, and spiritual challenges

The game of becoming the next-best version of ourselves ain’t for sissies. There’s real bumps, trip ups, knock downs, and even tears that come with the territory.

So, in deciding whether to play BIG or stay the same in the coming new year/decade/era of your life, it pays to go in eyes-wide-open.

A good Big Game plan would involve not only a coach — to help you see the game from another perspective, your strategic assets, your blind spots, etc. — but also medics on the sidelines — to remedy and treat the unavoidable bruises that will come from playing.

So, before the Big Game begins (should you choose to play one) in only a couple short weeks, start to consider…

1) Who will be my coach, and a team to play with, in moving by best-self goals forward inside a 2020 perfect vision?

2) Where will I set up my medics on the sidelines, and who will I turn to for support when my various parts of Self get bruised?

It’s an often overused acronym, but it bears reminding that Together Everyone Achieve’s More.

Find your 2020 TEAM.

I’ve been running local mastermind groups full of folks producing amazing results…and plan to offer the same opportunities virtually in 2020. If you’d like more information, simply respond to this email expressing your interest. We’ll chat personally to assess your 2020 vision and TEAM readiness.

And, if you’d like to explore the impact of a coach on your sidelines as you look to play bigger and better, schedule a session here. Even the pros — especially the pros — have a coach in their Big Game.

Got bruise readiness?

“It is better to go bruised to heaven than sound to hell.” – Richard Sibbes

Dec 04

December 4, 2019 – JOLT – I hear that train a comin’…

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Ready or not, here I come! – 2020

When you look back…

did you ever really feel ready or prepared to…
-pick a career?
-have a kid?
-launch a business?

Maybe your answer is “yes”…but I’d say, for the most part, many aspects of your life came about by simply moving forward, doing the best with what you knew at the time, and taking a shot.

Sometimes your shot landed, and sometimes your face landed. But, by simply moving forward, even if that meant falling forward, you went a direction: forward.

2020 is almost here. This particular New Year and new decade is giving motivational folks a lot of kitschy and playful themes to play upon, my favorite of which is “Seeing Clearly.”

You may not feel ready or prepared for a whole new game coming in a few short weeks. And, honestly, there’s no new game coming at all if you don’t want one. It’s everyone’s choice to either choose the made-up ritual of New Year transformation or not.

But, if you ARE interested in getting on the inspirational growth train for your own life, even as it revs up to leave the station, there’s no time like the present to start seeing clearly for New Year/New Decade/New Opportunity ahead.

Next week, I’ll have some tools available for you to begin your take-myself-to-the-next-level prep. Heck, if you email me back directly, I’ll even send you a starter exercise right now.

Yet, no matter where you go, there you are. So, if you’re going into 2020, ready or not, which you will you bring? I suggest the one that’s as ready as possible.

Where, when, and how can you fit your New Year/New Decade/New You planning into your busy holiday schedule? When will you do that? Who will you tell who will hold you accountable? These are GREAT December 4th questions to ask yourself!

If you’d like a year-end/year-start review of your career or business goals, schedule a session here. You’ll more likely move forward when you have a committed listener involved.

Got ready you?

“People get ready, there’s a train comin’.” – Curtis Mayfield

Nov 27

November 27, 2019 – JOLT – Thanks!

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“No one who achieves success does so without acknowledging the help of others. The wise and confident acknowledge this help with gratitude.” – Alfred North Whitehead

Of all the things you’re doing today…

reading long, inspiring, freedom and self-expression inducing emails is probably not a priority.

So, just a quick note to say THANKS for GIVING me the opportunity to reside in even a small part of your busy and robust life.

Heck, allowing me into your inbox on a weekly basis is actually no small part!

I appreciate your trust in me to regularly give you a little something that may brighten your day and your prospects for a better day tomorrow.

Heads up: based on your recent answers to the CareerGuy survey (thanks again to all respondents), I’ll be finding ways to more pointedly address your greatest needs and desires in the coming months…so watch out for opportunities to go beyond inspiration into effective action on what matters to you most.

Again, thank you, God Bless, and enjoy all that there is in your own life to be thankful for…today, tomorrow, and every day.

If you’d like to get a leg up and plan in place for taking your career or business to the next level in the coming New Year/New Decade, schedule a session here. Taking action in the first minute always beats waiting to the last.

Got thanks giving?

“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” – Meister Eckhart

Nov 13

November 13, 2019 – JOLT – Shaking up the status quo…as you grow

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“When people tell you you’ve changed, it’s only because you stopped acting the way they want you to act.” – Unknown

Most of us want to grow but, at the same time…

feel subtly constrained by the environment we created while we were being who we used to be.

OK, what???

Think of it this way. You want to grow, so you pursue growth. Ideally, that growth produces a new and improved version of you.

However, you bring that new and improved you out into the world in which you’ve lived the previous you — the relationships that still exist, the job or business that still exists, the community or connections that still exists — and that environment is so used to the old you that it gets thrown off by the new you…and maybe even resists the new you.

On the one hand, real friends will always advocate and support your growth. But, even with real friends, there’s an adjustment period…because we’re all initially caught unawares by change. As personally developed as we can be, there’s still a part of us that looks for steady and predictable in the people and things around us.

On the other hand, fair weather friends will be gone, in a continual and futile search for that which is changeless.

So, if you’re gonna grow,
you gotta know
that your existing environment may flow
when you tell them what’s so.

You trained your environment to interact with you the way that it currently does. When you change, retraining your environment is simply part of the package.

Understanding the necessary changes that your personal growth brings about in your environmental structures is just part of the game…yet it pays to know going in. But would you, could you, have it any other way?

I have a personal investment in today’s message in that I, too, will start showing up a bit differently as CareerGuy and our services grow to best meet your needs and desires.

Last week, I conducted a survey of our CareerGuy community of subscribers, to learn what you most want and need. Thanks to all who contributed, and Chris Kauffman was our gift card winner. (If your voice wasn’t heard, you can still speak up for a limited time here.)

As we culminate a decade and move into a new one in only a few short weeks, I’ll be changing things up a bit in how I deliver what I have to best serve your career, business and personal interests.

What environment of your own can you shake up today as a testament to your own growth? And who do you want to show up as in the next decade to come?

If you’re up for some shaking and stirring of the elements of your career or business moving forward, schedule a session here. Sometimes a master mixologist is all you need.

Got growth-induced environmental shakeup?

“People say to me ‘You’ve changed.’ and I say ‘Haven’t you?’ People change. It’s just life.” – Jake Bugg

Nov 06

November 6, 2019 – JOLT – Your own mini-surveys check your reality

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Embrace reality even if it burns you.” – Pierre Berge’

There’s this place called a Private Idaho...

that many of us can find ourselves living in.

For the sake of believing what we want to believe, operating in a way that suits us, and staying in our warm and comfy zones, there’s no better place to be.

However, if you care about anything outside of your silo, your own Private Idaho is the bad part of town…because there’s no information getting through. All means of communication with the outside world are locked down by egoic, totalitarian rule.

That may all sound so broad and poetic, but let’s just look at our jobs, our businesses, and our relationships. Do we really know how we are being perceived by the boss, the spouse/significant other, the employees, or the customers? Not if we don’t ask.

The rub with asking is that we may hear something we don’t like. That’s the egoic, totalitarian rule: fear. We all like good feedback vs bad. Yet, is not knowing worth the pain that comes from only finding out later that we coulda/woulda/shoulda benefited from input way earlier on?

Here’s the short and sweet message today, just like the mini-survey below: take an area of your life which you consider most crucial and solicit some feedback.

“Just wanted to check in: is there anything I should know or anything you’ve been thinking to communicate with me that you haven’t?”

The trick is, ask…and then shut up and listen. Don’t argue, don’t debate, don’t fix, and don’t even respond with anything but “Thank you. I appreciate your honest input.”

Brave enough to play? Wise enough to play? Let’s see what surprises and unexpected opportunities lie in store for you today!

Please take literally a minute to answer 7 brief questions to help us best serve you…and enter to win a $25 Amazon gift card as a thank you for helping us out. Take the mini-survey here.

Got mini-surveyed reality check?

“The road to success is always under construction.” – Lily Tomlin

Oct 30

October 30, 2019 – JOLT – Woke habits go bye bye

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.” – Warren Buffett

There’s always talk about self-limiting beliefs…

but what about self-limiting habits?

We could say that beliefs and habits are intertwined in that one’s beliefs may reflect in their habits.

The problem with rising from either is that you mostly never realize when your self-limiting beliefs are dictating life, nor do you notice when you’re in the process of acting out your self-limiting habits.

It’s those beliefs and habits taking place unconsciously that can never be healed.

So, what do you do if you want to grow to be a bigger person today than you were yesterday?

Wake up to what’s unconscious! Begin to notice when beliefs and habits are playing out…and stop there!

The “stop there” part is critical because, otherwise, you use your adroitly gained insight as a hammer to slam down the tiny opening to freedom you just gained.

The worst thing you can do when you notice an old belief or pattern that no longer serves you is to judge and bash yourself for still having that damn belief or pattern.

The very reason you still have it is because every time it’s shown up to reveal more about itself — so you can understand, appreciate and embrace it — you made it feel like public enemy #1.

(Believe it or not, it was actually birthed inside of an effort to protect you and keep you safe.)

To actually ever heal a persistent belief or habit, it first takes consistent, non-judgmental awareness when as it shows up over and over and over again.

It helps to simply consider visits from age-old, limiting patterns and beliefs to be a sign that you’re becoming more awake and free. With that greater awareness, those once frequent visitors may actually realize — without any forcefulness from you — that they’ve worn out their stay.

What you resist persists. What rusty old habit can you observe and embrace today?

Woken habits is the first stage to moving beyond them. So, be grateful when you catch yourself doing it yet again!

If an age-old habit is waiting until things have gone awry in career or business to get help, notice it…and then schedule a private session here.

Got woke habits?

“I learned to be with myself rather than avoiding myself with limiting habits; I started to be aware of my feelings more. rather than numb them.” – Judith Wright

Oct 23

October 23, 2019 – JOLT – If quality is what you seek, then pick one

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Nothing endures but personal qualities.” – Walt Whitman

We all like the feeling…

of having had a quality day.

The question is how do we ensure it from the get-go?

Easy! Pick one.

Today, pick a quality that you’d like to experience more of in your life, or one which you already know you most enjoy experiencing.

Seriously — take 10 seconds right now to Google “human qualities list” and you’ll find a ton of simple personality and character traits to choose from.

Practice BEing that quality today.

If and when you forget, or notice yourself not BEing that quality, simply BE it again. (Sure, you can bring another one or two into the mix to help with that, like Forgiveness or Compassion.)

Then, at the end of the day, assess how that quality day left you feeling. If you want more of the same, pick it again tomorrow. Otherwise, pick from the smorgasbord of choices for your next quality day.

Quality day after quality day leads to quality life. Is that worth your 10 seconds right now?

If I can help bring additional quality to your career or life, schedule a private session here.

Got quality?

“You attract people by the qualities you display. You keep them by the qualities you possess.” – Unknown

Oct 16

October 16, 2019 – JOLT – Antithetical learning: for the unknown of YOU

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“One sure-fire way to stay creative: force yourself to learn something new.” – Harvey Mackay

Too often, in the throes of busy and business life,

the only time we learn something new is when we’re forced to: some job shift, some turn of events in life, some emergency requiring new knowledge and skills.

Maybe a new system is being implemented company wide, and we have no choice but to give up our attachment to the old and learn this new technology.

Maybe a shift in health or relationship has us gaining knowledge in areas we hadn’t given much attention to before.

Maybe a sudden and unexpected occurrence or tragedy puts us in a whole new world of learning…sometimes from the ground up.

If you look, other than the 12, to 16, or even 20 years of traditional or higher-level schooling some of us had, much of our personal, ongoing learning is relegated to reading or audio books, and maybe a seminar here or there. Good for casually growing our world of ideas, but not always monumentally life-altering or transformative.

Why? Because monumental new learning involves exiting comfort zones of what we “know” and who we “know” ourselves to be…which is a rub.

However, we’ve all heard that anything worth really playing or living for always resides outside our comfort zones.

What if, just for the heck (or healing) of it, we each challenged ourselves to engage in something completely new simply for the sake of discovering other aspects of ourselves we didn’t know existed?

Such as…
-a caucasian guy committing to the several years of salsa dance instruction necessary to get that rhythm into his system so it comes out naturally.
-a creative artist signing up for an app building program, to engage the the technical and engineering aspects of the mind.
-an engineering or scientific professional enrolling in an improv class, to initiate nascent abilities of irrational and quick creativity.

Of course, you can say “That’s silly! These folks aren’t built for these areas of learning.”

That’s the point. How can we ever know what we’re capable of, much less keep our doors of learning truly open, unless we invite in alternative and stretching realms?

Your mission today, should you choose to accept it, is to pick an area of antithetical expansion and learning that you’ll begin to cultivate…for no reason other than to experience yourself differently, and to grow.

Perhaps a heads up on a stretch to bring into the coming new year?

I’m taking on a new area of antithetical growth myself, and would appreciate your support and input. Stay tuned for more details next week.

In the meantime, schedule a private session here for support in your career change, individual learning and Big Game growth.

Got antithetical learning?

“Knowledge is when you learn something new every day. Wisdom is when you let something go every day.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Oct 09

October 9, 2019 – JOLT – Decisions, decisions, decisions… and then, redecision!

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les Brown

We all know what it’s like…

to make decisions.

Every day, in every way, big and small, lasting or fleeting, easy or grueling…we crank them out both consciously and unconsciously.

There’s a ton of wisdom thrown around about decision-making, such as…

“Not making a decision is actually a decision. It’s the decision to stay the same.”

“Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from making bad decisions.”

“The hard part is implementing the decision, not making it.”

However, one thing we don’t often think about is the decisions we’ve made that we’re not thinking about.


Look, we’ve all made lots of decisions that have long gone under the radar of our lives. Some decisions were made during the course of our life experiences, and some from a very early age before we even had a fully formed brain.

“I’m no good at [x].”
“Things always go this way for me.”
“Work is always [descriptive].”
“Men are like this…”
“Women are like this…”
“I’m never good enough.”

The problem with so many decisions going underground, into the subconscious, is that we live our lives as if we’re here today, present in the moment, and yet what’s really running the show is a bunch of age-old decisions we once made at unique, past times in our life.

The decisions we made then got us through those unique times, but may not be the best approach to live the life we want to live NOW.

So, a conscious inventory of our old, hidden decisions can often be the way to free ourselves up in the NOW for opportunities and growth we won’t experience if those old decisions remain hidden.

Tricky business, to get the mind to look at itself and uncover hidden decisions. But, it can be done, and one way is to simply begin writing out the main areas of your life that are important to you and ask…

“When did I decide it was this way in [x] area? What happened to have me decide that? Is that a decision that empowers my life NOW, or might I experience new possibilities by letting it go and making a new decision?”

Not a pastime for lightweights, for sure, but who ever built a great life NOW without doing a bit of heavy lifting?

Want a fun environment in which to made some new decisions? If you’re near LA, join us for our 1-Day Back Forty IGNITE Program this Saturday, October 12, in Long Beach. In a beautiful hotel location, overlooking the harbor and Queen Mary, you’ll walk away with empowering redecisions on some of your biggest past limitations. See details for the program here or schedule a private session here.

Got redecision?

“Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision.” – Tony Robbins

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Sep 25

September 25, 2019 – JOLT – One look back to see more miles forward?

By Darrell Gurney | Blog

“The farther back you can look, the farther forward you are likely to see.” – Winston Churchill

We have a notion that our success…

comes primarily from the actions we take today to progress, to move forward, to claim new ground, to stake new territories.

And, of course, progress does depend on taking action.

However, a reflective look back can actually be one of the smartest actions we can take to move forward.

To a great degree, many don’t see any urgency in reflection. It’s sometimes viewed as the lower priority choice when compared to all the new, fun things we can get involved with. We can be like kids forced to take medicine when a bit of “Stop – Breathe – Reflect” direction comes our way.

I recall a quote from a character played by Raul Julia in the 1976 movie “Gumball Rally” (Google it) where he tells his racing companion, “And now, my friend, the first rule of Italian driving: what’s behind me is not important” and then detaches the rear-view mirror and throws it out of the car.

Yet, there’s also the famous George Santayana quote, “Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it.”

Here’s the deal: what if we take out the gloom and doom and just accept that we all have a personal history. Then, simply ask ourselves…

“Does my personal history fire me up on all pistons for what’s possible for me?” or…

“Does my personal history carry some seeming weight or limitation on my greatest Self emerging?”

Depending on your answer, there may be value in taking some time to reflect yourself forward.

In executive coaching, I can’t tell you how often successful people (by all worldly standards) really have a five-year-old running the show. That five-year-old had certain life experiences that couldn’t be processed by such a young brain. Therefore, subconscious decisions about “how life is” got formed. And the five-year-old now runs the department, the business, the firm, the show.

Sure, reflection for reflection’s sake can be indulgent. But reflection for the sake of uncovering unseen anchors of limitation…now THAT could be the best investment of time ever.

Your mission today, should you choose to accept it: “Stop – Breathe – Reflect” on whether there could be value for you in discovering any weight you’re carrying around that you don’t think you have.

When it comes to your career, life, relationships and dreams reaching their highest expression, the lighter your load, the better.

Want a structure to accomplish some propelling reflection? If you’re near LA, join us for our 1-Day Back Forty IGNITE Program on October 12 in Long Beach. In a beautiful hotel location, overlooking the harbor and Queen Mary, our players will leave past limitations behind and begin a radical, unlimited second half of life. See details for the program here or schedule a private session here.

Got propelling reflection?

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” – Soren Kierkegaard